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Original poster

..to let DS wee in the street?

26 replies

mrschop · 02/05/2008 19:26

He's 3.5, needed a wee, no loos nearby. Other than a shop doorway (!) the nearest suitable spot was a fence post on the high street so he did his business there - pretty much on the high street but in a secluded a spot as possible. Then emptied my bottle of water over it to wash it away. Don't really know what else I could have done but I did feel a bit weird letting him do that. Do little boys get different rules? Btw, I think men weeing in the street are beyond revolting...

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Furball · 02/05/2008 19:27

my ds has done this - I think it can't be helped at that age. Wouldn't worry about it. and I certainly wouldn't judge if I saw it. would just be grateful he didn't wet his pants and up being uncomfortable.

WigWamBam · 02/05/2008 19:29

I used to have to let dd wee in the street occasionally up until she was about 5.5 ... sometimes you just can't avoid it, and it's better than wet clothes.

iheartdusty · 02/05/2008 19:29

no problem at all.

the only thing I found was that DD liked the idea so much that she would refuse to wee before leaving nursery then always demand to wee in the street on the way home.

I always made her/ ds use the gutter, though, not the pavement. ie held her over the edge or made him stand at the edge.

avenanap · 02/05/2008 19:32

I saw a little boy having a piddle inside the shop window of a Primark store once. It's not this bad!

scottishmummy · 02/05/2008 19:37

you did what you had to do needs must and all that

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mrschop · 02/05/2008 19:40

Oh I feel better! Felt like such a grotbag as loads of people were walking past. DS did not care, he loves a bit of al fresco weeing (usually confined to trees in the woods), but I did wonder whether there was something else I should have done.

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scottishmummy · 02/05/2008 19:43

arguably the lack of appropriate hygienic facilities impeded your choice,so not your fault at all

PotPourri · 02/05/2008 19:43

I think it is fine. A friend of mine told me that she always carried an empty little water bottle so that her DS could wee into that. Might be something to think about. I do this with DD if she says she can't wait. And if anyone challenged me, I would seriously growl at them. Clearly you need to be as subtle as the situation/location allows. But needs must, and toddlers do not have the control required to just hold it in.

AitchTwoCiao · 02/05/2008 19:44

i well remember weeing on the hard shoulder of the motorway when we went on holiday... bloody terrifying.

muggglewump · 02/05/2008 19:45

That sounds fine to me, if you hadn't let him, he'd surely have peed himself anyway getting some on the floor perhaps in a shop.
YANBU

cat64 · 02/05/2008 19:46

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hifi · 02/05/2008 19:52

dogs do it all over, and worse. if they are desperate there's no choice, i have put dd over a grate once, you know recycle.

gingeme · 02/05/2008 19:57

My ds has done this a couple of times hes 4. I remember my Nan holding me over a drain with my knickers down cause I needed a wee when I was little.
Though we were driving by our local park and I saw a boy crouching as if to have a pooh and he looked about 8! Surely by that age he would have been able to hold it plus there are two lots of toilets in this park

WestCountryLass · 02/05/2008 20:47

YANBU but I do try and get mine to wee down drain holes.

WestCountryLass · 02/05/2008 20:49

YANBU but I do try and get mine to wee down drain holes.

themoon66 · 02/05/2008 20:51

DS was very keen on weeing in public around age 2. I think it's normal.

hippopotamouse · 02/05/2008 20:52

I let DS do this once outside Blockbuster (up a lane at the side) and now he asks any time we go!

chunkychips · 02/05/2008 20:53

Yes, we've done it loads of times, usually try to find a sidestreet with a grid and pee down that.

bogwobbit · 02/05/2008 20:53

When my dd1 was about 4 and out with her gran in Edinburgh, she needed a wee. Apparently she let my MIL know by yelling "Find a drain". I felt mildly embarassed, but tbh at that age if they need, they need fairly quickly and there ain't that many public loos about.

jaspersslave · 02/05/2008 22:09

if its any help my ds (3) dropped his pants and had a wee in the street right in front of a group of police (it was football day) they said it was fine.
so u cant get in trouble for it

scottishmummy · 02/05/2008 22:11

ahhhh

KerryMum · 02/05/2008 22:12

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laurz75 · 02/05/2008 22:18

Done it so many times too with ds (2.10). It seems that boys particularly just can't wait (or is that just my ds!)

Twoddle · 02/05/2008 23:44

YANBU. Have done this with DS (nearly 4). Including down a drain on the very top of the multi-storey - don't know where that ended up!

Our loosely-adhered-to rule is, if you can get to a loo, do. However, if he's playing in the garden, I'm OK with him peeing in a bush. Also (we live in a bungalow), he's developed the questionable habit of peeing out of the front window into the flower bed below. I have challenged him on this - you can make it to the loo! - and he says he's giving the flowers a nice drink. I had previously told him wee is good for plants, so that's come back to bite me on the arse. Am going to try putting a stop to this by locking the window, I think - can't have little lad peeing out the window as the postman pulls up.

Iamthedoctor · 03/05/2008 09:54

I don't see a problem with it, at all.