Parents going no contact with adult children

[AlloaintheMiddle]

Hello
I sometimes hear about adult children going no contact with their parents due to complex relationships or difficult histories, but I haven’t seen as much discussion from the perspective of parents who’ve had to consider low or no contact with their adult children.

I’m posting as a sibling. My parents have a challenging relationship with my sibling, and while they’re not considering going completely no contact, they are thinking about shifting to low contact for their own well-being. This has been a really difficult time for them, and I’m trying to be as supportive as I can.

If any of you have experience as parents who’ve chosen low or no contact with an adult child, can you share? What led to your decision? How did you do it? Was it face to face, through a text, or something else? Did you feel the need to provide an explanation? Just a short message?

YABU: Parents don’t go no contact
YANBU: Parents sometimes do

DH and his parents have been NC for 2 years now. Real Dad and step mum - his real mum left when DH was very young and is estranged.
Step-MIL on the scene since DH was about 7. She was always very controlling and FIL went along with it and idolises her. They created their own insular world and we only saw them once, possibly twice a year.
Much more to it than this, but DH fell out with MIL over her treatment of him, and FIL sided with her.
He said he’d leave the ball in his Dad’s court to contact him if he wanted to - and he hasn’t for 2 years! No birthday/Christmas cards for their grandchildren or anything. Wider family members have stayed in contact with us and have indicated that they don’t feel DH is in the wrong.
It’s such a sad situation, but DH is content with it and won’t go back.

Cyclebabble do you and your husband have Lasting Powers of Attorney in place? It's not too late for you to set one up for you, and if there isn't one for your husband you need to seek advice on what can be done to protect him, if you die first, in view of what you say.