I've been seeing someone for 2-and-a-half years now and, although I love him, I'm starting to think I need to end the relationship as certain factors are bringing me down.
He's an alcoholic - was totally upfront about it when we first met and said he was not drinking. However, in the space of our relationship he's had two relapses. Each time he's started going to AA meetings but stopped after a few weeks, maintaining he'd got it under control. He had a further relapse recently and, when I questioned it, he lied and said he hadn't been drinking. I didn't believe him so asked him again a couple of days later, at which point he admitted he had, apologised for lying and said he realised he needs to go to meetings regularly, get a sponsor, etc. He last went to a meeting two weeks ago and, although has had opportunities in the past fortnight, hasn't gone. It makes me think he's not committed to doing so.
Also, I've never met his parents. Didn't question it for the first couple of years as assumed it would happen in time. I did mention it in passing a couple of months ago when he was talking about them. He said he would arrange a time to take me, yet at the beginning of December he announced he was going to visit them and didn't invite me, and couldn't understand my upset. He then invited me as an afterthought (I didn't go).
We were abroad recently and I couldn't find my 'phone. I asked him if he could call it and he said no because the call would cost him £2.
Am I being blind to several red flags here? Or just being a little oversensitive?