To not to want to go to a christening of someones child who i dont even know.

[lucyellensmum]

So, DP has to work most of the BH, but the one day he will have off, we will be going to his friends childs christening. We have NO money so the do afterwards is a strain we can do without. DP only knows his friend and his wife, i dont know them at all. I have serious self esteem issues and will feel awkward and uncomfortable and feel i will embarrass DP. DD is only 2.5 so the church service is going to be fun (NOT).

Am i mean in not wanting to do and going under sufference?

I don't think YABU not to want to go but I think you should go - what's not having any money got to do with it? It's catered for, surely? If you've got self esteem issues and feel awkward and uncomfortable then you need the social practice

Don't worry about your DD christenings are full of children.

They obviously want you to go otherwise they wouldn't have invited you and I think you should go.

If you have self-esteem issues, surely it's an opportunity to go out and talk to some different people? Why would you embarrass your dp?And surely the party won't involve you having to spend any money?

Sitting at home all weekend isn't going to make you feel better, surely?

wouldnt be sitting at home though - be out with DP and DD somewhere and DD1 coming to dinner. (she is 17 and left home). Would rather stick a fork in my eye, and i know that DP would rather stay home and count his feet - but i will go, its DPs friend. I daren;t tell him i dont want to go - he wouldnt need much of an excuse not to go - he hates social gatherings, especially when we dont know anyone - oopooh, someone please tell me it wont be like pulling teeth

The party is in a working mans club (terrific!), and there is a disco and bar - sooooo, it might not be soooo bad then , maybe its a free bar - lemonades all round It wont be so bad, will it????

If neither of you want to go, then unless it is a really good friend of your DP's who will be offended, then why go? Enjoy your weekend together as a family.

I dread every social thing like this that I have to do, but USUALLY end up enjoying them far more than I expected. You might just have fun.

Good Girl!

Can your DD1 come for for tea, or dinner in the evening? It would give you a legitimate reason to leave the christening at a certain (pre-arranged) time. That way, you could go to the christening for a while to be polite and then still see your other family in the evening?

there's nowt wrong with working men's clubs, grew up in them me. maybe they'll have a few turns on and a game or two of bingo. Go, you might actually enjoy yourself.

eeehwooowoooowoooowaaahhhh - i didnt mean it in that way - i just meant its a paid bar, but hey, we dont know anyone so wont have to shout a round. My social starting ground was the local labour club - tbh, made the working mans club seem posh in comparison - bar brawls thrown in for free . Now if there were to throw in bingo - i'd be there!

I know chuck still think you should go. i'm sure you've got lots to share with other people and are in no way going to do anything that could possibly embarrass your other half.

ah, but perhaps i should? naked shimmy on the table, flashing my "nip nips" as DD calls them, she would probably join in

oh, see, now im getting naughtyness - not a good sign

Go

Not going brings us back to inertia, does it not ??

Bully !!! Ill go - just for you

If you ever get a chance ask FAQ, about the time I cyber bullied her into going to her Drs to get Ad's

i can fully believe it Bree