Me and my partner have an 18 and 16 year old together. 18 year old is absolutley solid 99% of the time and 16 year old was until recently.
Myself and partner both come from not very great families and have done the best we can (apart from teenage pregnancy with my first 🤣) to work hard and have quite a nice life.
We live in South London and we rent. We pay 1600 for large two bed flat. Both the boys have their own rooms and we have sectioned off the living room with a plasterboard wall little entrance way and have a bed one side and living room the other. We both make enough money to rent somewhere bigger I'd say but we like to also be able to do stuff at the weekends and have little trips etc without panicking we won't be paying the bills, so this option for us is fine.
18 year old has made us very proud and is going to Uni and studying Law. 16 year old is making us very proud going to college in the aims to become a physiotherapist.
My youngest however recently has become extremely entitled and after a glass of wine I've had this afternoon ive become a bit upset.
Recently we have come back in from work to the whole house smelling of weed. Partners dad went to prison and was in prison for many years of him growing up due to drug supplying offences so that was just a kick in the teeth for him (we knew he might try it but to blast it through the house was a step we never thought of) We made him get a job at a retail store to learn the value of money as he was spending ours like water and he got himself sacked by not doing as he was asked so was let go for poor performance and dad heard him telling his mate he'd done it on purpose. Tonight he has asked us to leave the house on new years eve so his mates can come over and said well you guys have the money to stay in a hotel or something? I was gobsmacked.
We are taking them to Japan at the end of Jan as a Christmas present as they both wanted to go and I feel like where we come from abusive households we have now made him entitled trying to not give him the same life.
Even as stupid as last night my husband went to get some cakes he had bought and our son had had all 6 in one go and hadn't left any for the rest of us. That's not how we thought we had bought him up.
He isn't rude to us or attitudey but his actions are very upsetting. I know it sounds ridiculous and it's probably a teenage thing but I really feel like we have failed him somehow having given him this attitude.
I am all for constructive critism here.