I always have bought presents for family.
Usually same, but since my mum died have had nothing from family at all.
My birthday and Christmas. I didn't get a thank you for gifts, no one wanted to see me apart from my brother and he just gives money and puts no thought into gifts.
Jow can I broach it, that I am hard up and can't afford gifts anymore so won't be buying gifts moving forwards for neices (over 18) or anyones birthdays and Christmases, so please don't get me anything.
I spent over 250 quid on neices, sister n brother.
Not a thank you from sister or neices.
Didn't want to see me, ignored messages asking to meet up.
Had no arguments or anything but my sister is in a bad relationship where I imagine it might not be atmosphere she wants to invite me around for.
She used to confide in me before my mum died but since she died, his side of the family kind of top trumps ours, so the balance is put of whack.
I don't like my sisters bfs side of the family as we are very different and they minimise abuse. A lot of the men are abusive and because I have fought sisters side when things have been bad, its caused tension.
It's hard since my mum and dad died but I can't keep doing it as I get nothing back, not even wanting to see me.
It's probably why, if they get me nothing and I spending so much.
I know I need to stop but feel I need to say something.
Just like... hi, its been a tough year financially so I won't be able to send money or gifts for birthdays and Christmas anymore. Please don't spend or buy anything for me as I'm quite happy just having experiences, I'd rather meet for a meal or coffee.
Would something like that do?