My partner and I agreed he’d pick up the dog poo while I made the coffee. So, I start making it, and he comes in saying, “Can you make it properly, how I like it? Normal coffee, not decaf.”
I told him I used normal coffee and then added a sweetener (as we’ve been using sweeteners for years). Suddenly, he loses it, saying he wanted brown sugar. I explained I didn’t hear him say “brown sugar” and thought he just meant “normal coffee.” He snaps back with, “You know how I usually have it!” But I don’t he always uses sweeteners!
At that point, we start shouting. I found his reaction incredibly rude, and then he calls me an “ignorant prick” for supposedly doing it on purpose. I was so wound up by the way he was speaking to me that I told him to make his own coffee next time and called him an entitled prick in return.
I was so angry I wanted to throw the coffee in his face, but instead, I threw it in the sink and told him to make it himself. Now we’re not even talking. All this… over brown sugar.
I’m not sure if I’m being unreasonable here. I know I completely lost my cool, but the way he was speaking to me was unacceptable. That said, I realise shouting and throwing the coffee probably made things worse. I feel like the real issue is the lack of respect towards me over a coffee.