to not want my dd to have her christening party in a greasy spoon!??

[sam86]

Hi everyone! hope everyone is well. just thought i would vent a bit and see if anyone else has any funny/annoying stories about things their in laws wanted them to do!!

my dp's father owns a cafe (a normal men in overall type one!) and so has decided when our first born has her christening in june that the party should be held in there afterwards! i just cant see us and all our friends hanging about a greasy spoon in suits and dresses and my little girl in a silk gown! i dont think anyone would be comfortable, especially watching dps dad making them food and drinks etc, sitting in rigid seats attached to the table, on a hopefully warm sunday afternoon! ive tried (well i got dp to!) saying that he wouldnt be able to enjoy it as hed be working effectively but he really wants to do it! argh!!!!!

any advice!! xx

my mother ran a post office and corner shop for all my youth and it paid for my upbringing. I had no problem with being brought up "living above the shop". Not sure I would have fancied having DS christened in it though (though our custard tarts were exceptioonally good). I don't think that makes me a snob?

and unless the pub across the road to the church is owned by Gordon Ramsey or Heton Blumenthal - I dont see he can feel you're being snobbish about it!

yanbu, I would try as nicely as possible to say no. My ds was baptised in the summer & we had his party in a local pub garden with a buffet. Everyone very relaxed & mingled, it was really nice and special.

At the end of the day, its your dd and your choice for her christening.

Would say a definite no, you need to start now or where will it stop...you will have very definite ideas on what you want for your dd and just becuase fil has an idea in his head does not mean it has to, by all means be gracious etc, but also be adamant. This is your dd and your ( and dh's choice) FWIW it does sound completely unsuitable for children to run around etc

thanx everyone! (have now got a craving for custard tarts though kewcumber!! wish was still preg so had excuse for these cravings though!Lol)

there hasnt been much mention of it since then, and we had thought of asking FIL to have it in his garden as is quite nice and large, and they have a small bouncy castle, but no longer an option as their dog jumped at DD and so no longer want her around that dog at all.

rosmerta- definitley love the idea of pub garden it sound much more like what i am after, and it gives people the option of having a drink and not needing their car, as well as us not having to do the clearing up afterwards or trying to get rid of the inevitable stragglers!

going to go ahead and sort out buffet at local pub and DH is going to casually mention it to FIL in a nice way, and thank him for his offer but explain not really practical or fair for him to have to work when we want him to enjoy it.

fingers crossed! xx

It's up to you - it's your dd's christening after all. However, it might not be as bad as you think - people laughed at me when I said I was having my wedding meal in Frankie and Benny's, but it was amazing!