Asd - trying for another

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I have two children with ASD , one who is 6 and is in a resourced provision and my youngest child is 4 and currently applying for a specialist school as his needs are significant.
My husband wants another child as we always said we wanted a big family ( before diagnosis) I am drained from EHCP's , LA and 'fighting' to get my children in a right school setting, I work full time too. I have always want more children but honesty can't do another EHCP/ school placement / SALT / Portage / Gp / OT etc again.

As you already have two children who are on the spectrum, you can probably expect the next to be as well. You need to think about not just the present, but what happens when they are adults and possibly may not be able to live independently and may still need your support. If you feel you can't do it for a third, that is really important to consider.

I would advise not. It just gets harder with autistic DC (I only have one aged 12).

Don’t do it.

I am an autistic mum of two autistic kids. No way would I want to roll the dice again. Of course I love my children but I have a LOT of headspace dedicated to making sure they are managing at school and recovering at home. Juggling their conflicting needs, social batteries, food and sensory issues. No way would I want to add a third child to the mix - neurodivergent or not.

He can want as many as he likes but how much is he doing to support the children you already have? You sound clear you’re maxed out and you’re sensible to say no.