Unflattering social media posts regarding those who can't answer back!

[Jobs4kids]

Such as children or people with dementia?

This is prompted by a friend posting yet another set of photos and video footage of their mother who has alzheimers looking a far cry from the vibrant woman she once was and clearly not having a clue what is going on. I cringe everytime, not least as my own mother also had alzheimers and I wouldn't have dreamt of posting photos of her looking like that. I rarely posted photos of her at all and, if I did, it would be a nice photo of her on her birthday or of when she was younger (which I did when she passed away). I know my mum wouldn't have been happy if I had posted unflattering photos of her in latter years and certainly not of her being spoon fed her dinner or making reference to her soiling herself, like this friend has done.

It's quite a close friend but I won't be saying anything as, although I know a few mutual friends feel the same way, we're clearly in the minority judging by the large number of likes and "awww bless her" type comments they receive. All we can do is continue not like or comment and scroll past.

AIBU?

That’s awful for her daughter. That’s some really inconsiderate and bad parenting. There should seriously be some kind of laws around that. Every one has a right to privacy, including children. But social media has brainwashed us to believe we have to publicly document everything single moment of our lives. Do it as an adult, but don’t do it to your children.

I will never understand those who put their whole selves and others on Facebook, I myself am quite a private person.

I know a few people who do/have done that too. Someone recently posted about her DS repeatedly failing his Maths GCSE & asking her FB friends for advice. DD is a similar age & said she'd kill me if I posted something like that about her! I'll admit I posted photos of my DC when they were younger, but only nice ones on days out etc, certainly not having a tantrum or wetting themselves! Now they're older, DD forbids any images of her to be posted. DS doesn't mind but I always check first. As a result, my fb feed looks we're a family of 3!

Back to this friend, I think if the opportunity arises in conversation I might say that I presume that their mum would be OK with such images going online as I know my mum absolutely wouldn't have been, adding that my kids have been told it no uncertain terms that if I become old & senile they are not to put me online - not that they would dream of it, as they cringe at this friends posts too!

I have 270 people on my FB, and I only ever see the posts of a tenth of that. My feed is mostly ads, sponsored ads, and pages of people I do not know.
Sometimes, I think of someone and look them up.... and they have been very active on FB. It just does not show up on my feed.

So, in the case of the person you know... I bet no one reacted/commented because they never actually saw the post to start with.

Honestly I don't understand why people do this at all!

I also don't understand the people who put a quote picture up wishing their deceased loved one a "happy heavenly birthday/Christmas" sure remember them and wish them at home or where they are buried or scattered but it just feels attention seeking posting it online, who are you posting it for? Your nan who died 15 years ago and never had Instagram?!

Some people have this uncontrollable urge for attention, likes and validation on Facebook. It's hideous

There is a lady on my FB who wishes her nan a happy heavenly birthday. It has got a bit weird if I am honest.... "you would have been 142 today".