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To think my husband needs to find another vocation?

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readyfor2025 · 29/12/2024 14:19

Hi, my husband is ex military, now a photographer. I run a b2b marketing consultantcy. We’ve been married 10 years together 11. The world of photography has changed since Covid and as a freelancer he’s been struggling to get work post Covid. He doesn’t do any self promotion to put himself out there and expects jobs to just land based on his website and his portfolio. I have tried to help him many times over the years building a plan for him to execute. But he doesn’t stick to it, like the channels or says it takes too long (ie not instant). He gets upset with me saying I don’t help him. Outside of doing it for him, which I don’t have time to do as I have my own business to run. I’m not sure what to do. It’s becoming a point of frustration as I’m the only earner and have been for the last few years (I’ve always been the main earner). Something has to give, but I’m not sure what, is it time to tell him to find another vocation, go in house, or stop being a blooming baby and start behaving like an entrepreneur (which most self employed people have to do) to get work.

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DaniO2 · 29/12/2024 21:59

I'd discuss a time limit. Say 3-6 months to make photography work out otherwise get a job and continue the photography as a hobby. It doesn't mean he's a failure. He's just not suited to being freelance. It's competitive, not everyone can make a living from the hobby they love. So he needs to find something else.

If he isn't doing photography jobs he could be doing the cleaning at least!

Wackadaywideawake · 01/04/2025 21:16

I’m a photographer but I also have a part-time job for this exact reason. It means I have my guaranteed wage to contribute to the family, but I’m still doing what I love. Could he look into that?

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