It has taken me far too long to realise that my relationship is toxic and abusive. If I wrote down the things that had happened you would be thinking I'm crazy not to have seen it before. I was just so desperate to make things work for our children but now I'm at the point where I know I need to leave for them. There is no physical abuse but definitely emotional and mental, he's a functioning alcoholic and it is like living with jekyll and Hyde because he can be amazing but I'm constantly walking on eggshells because I never know when he'll be angry at something that another day he might have been okay with. He'll put me down as well and I think there may be a level of financial abuse going on as he is obsessed with money and as our relationship has progressed I've gone from being a professional with a stable job and good career and equity and assets behind me to struggling to work full time due to the stress at home and my assets have become joint due to him encouraging me to sell things to buy other things together.
We have 2 shared children but also 2 step children who live here full time. We have house with a mortgage that is in both of our names, I put in the lions share of the equity but stupidly did not legally ring fence this. We just moved into this house 5 weeks ago, we previously owned and lived in another house together but we sold and moved area. We are not married. I am due to start a new job in our area after Christmas however it is only a temporary job until summer (I would hope it would be continued beyond this but currently don't know that). The job is only part time, 3 days a week. Our two shared children are due to start nursery in our area after the holidays, his two older children already started school here 4 weeks ago. We dont have any family in the area and only very new friends. My family live a couple of hours away. I could go to stay there and tonight after he was being awful to me I packed bags for me and my children with the plan to get a train down in the morning but I would need to come back to start this new job, jobs in my field are difficult to get in the area my family live in just now. Ideally I would like my partner to leave but I know that he won't and he will be able to use my step children having started school here in his favour to argue why he should stay in the house. Accommodation in our area is very limited so I won't be able to find a rental. I don't know what I should do. Would I be able to apply to the council for emergency accommodation in these circumstances? I don't feel like I can wait around too long as his behaviour is quickly becoming worse and I'm becoming scared of him and I just want to get my children away from here.