Hurt by friend?

[mountevarest]

Friend invited me and two others to hers for NYE, the other two weren’t sure, I confirmed yes and they eventually as of the other day both said no. So friend cancelled.

She’s since told me she’s going to her parents with her boyfriend and invited a different friend as she couldn’t possibly let her spend NYE alone … but she’s ok with me spending it alone?

I just feel like I valued this friendship more than she did, and just hurt and let down.

might she assume you’ll go out with your other friends or have other plans?

I’d gently say that to her.

not to start an argument but to tell her that she has effectively done exactly that to you. You don’t want to fall out but you are hurt.

basically what you have written.

if you have a real friendship then it will make her realise she has misjudged things and will feel sorry.

if I had unintentionally hurt someone I cared about I would hope they would tell me. I would feel terrible and try to treat them better in future.

Yes,that would hurt my feelings and I would be letting her know.

is there anyone else you can spend the evening with?

She might be telling porkies? So she doesn't look so lonely?
I've spent many a NYE alone, it's not so bad, makes you reflect on your life. Or just bang on the music, have a drink and dance naked on the coffee table!

If she's a friend you ask her. I'm alone as I was coming to you?