Not buying gifts anymore

[Hannah55r]

Sorry I know it seems like jm posting all the darn time

Another one I want a consensus on

A few years ago I had NO idea what to buy ny sister and mother
I kept asking and asking and asking and said of they didn't give me an idea, I would buy gift cards.
The 23rd Dec rolls round and I then decided to buy gift cards that could be used jn ANY shop within the white rose centre.
Fuck it right? I asked for ideas because we aren't close so 🤷

Anyhow, we exchange gifts. I get a body set I can't use as I'm allergic (well known by all family) and the other gift is 4 sizes too small and on sale (so can't get another size!)

They got their cards and I wasn't best pleased at the reactions I got after having 2 gifts I couldn't even use.
I went to the bathroom and as I was walking I to the kitchen, I heard them both SLATING the gift cards I got. "Well we don't go there what a fucking waste" etc
I was so mad I confronted them immediately and they then tried gaslighting me
I told them they could have the gifts they got me as a clear afterthought (their gifts to each other were amazing) and I would take my £200 gift cards and buy MYSELF something

After the new year I sent out a message saying I was not going to be exchanging gifts again with anyone except my husband
Aibu here?

Nope. You feel shit and under appreciated and I totally get why you're done. Just be done now and allow yourself to move on and not linger over it. And have a lovely new year!

Don't do gifts again. Go spend your gift cards and enjoy. Gifts are the worst part of Christmas. I don't really see the point except for children. I have friends who exchange gift cards, what's the point? Just keep the money and go spend it. Skip a step!

X thankyou

@Hannah55r So did you stick to it? Not buy gifts again? (As it was a few years ago)

Thankyou so much x

Absolutely yes
That was the straw that broke the camels back after years of horrendous manipulation and emotional abuse and scapegoating

So this happened a few years ago so why is it an issue now?
You've already told your dm and ds you're not buying gifts for them and that implies you've now done a few Christmases without gifts for them, why is it an issue now?

I’m confused, why does this matter? If it was a few years ago then whatever the consequences (good or bad) have now been realised.

What’s your relationship with them like now?

good for you for confronting them!

Obviously op wanting attention

Just to clarify you did get your gift cards back didn’t you? I can’t make it out?

YANBU if you got some toiletries & you gave £100 voucher to each of them. Then they had the cheek to complain. I think you did the right thing. I can't see it being a good relationship going forward though.

Hang on, what is the context of you raising this now if it happened a few years ago?

It's absolutely fine IMO for adults not to buy each other gifts. My sibling and I only exchange cards (but do buy for each other's kids).

Thankyou for all your replies.
I won't explain further to the ones throwing shade on me "wanting attention" - there's always at least one on these threads.

For the others, I don't speak to the sister any more and I'm pretty much nc with parents now.

Of course - I wasn't leaving them after bejng slagged off