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Christmas cards

11 replies

WhoDatNow · 28/12/2024 11:17

I still send Christmas cards especially to people who live a long way from us or have been long-term friends / older family members who don't keep up with us on Facebook etc. I don't give cards to friends from a local hobby group who I will see and have a Christmas drink with. I do NOT mind who sends me a card or whether they choose not to ... that doesn't influence who I choose to send to / or not. I also respect that some folks donate to a charity directly rather than buying and sending charity cards.

Yes the cost of postage is crazy and sending an advent calendar cost twice as much to post as the blinking chocolate calendar did so I will be rethinking those for the next generation in 2025 - might look to see if I can order on Amzon Prme which I have for the one-off delivery costs.

AIBU to still send cards to folks who don't send to me though? One friend said I made her feel bad as I sent a card on 1 December when she wasn't sending cards and had put up a post on social media later in the month to say she was donating instead. I replied that I wanted to send her a card, I didn't want to receive one in return - it was about the giving not the getting.

I saw someone else post yesterday that they give cards and keep a tally of who sends them one and if one isn't received they don't send next year. Fair enough if the getting is as important to you I guess but perhaps not the way I want to think in December, and frankly I don't have time to cross-reference on a spreadsheet who gave / who got / who to ignore / who is excused.

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fuzzychic · 28/12/2024 14:23

Send a card to whoever you want

Fountofwisdom · 28/12/2024 15:14

I have sent a reducing number of cards each year and this year sent none. Don’t have the time or energy and feel they are a dying art anyway. And don’t get me started on the cost of postage. It’s really only the older generation who still bother with them I think. Couldn’t care less whether others send me a card or not, 2 of the handful I received this year had been specially printed with photos of the sender, so were basically a vanity project!

They will all be binned next week and anyone who bears grudges over such things is a moron.

CulturalNomad · 28/12/2024 15:29

They will all be binned next week and anyone who bears grudges over such things is a moron

Exactly! I haven't sent cards in many, many years and frankly don't care about getting them at all. I don't "display" them, just toss them right after Christmas.

But if you legitimately get pleasure from sending cards then just do it! But don't be offended when it's not reciprocated because I think the custom is definitely dying out.

SnoopysHoose · 28/12/2024 15:31

I posted 3, still give them
to some friends and my adult kids; they do like their card from their mum Smile

CoastalCalm · 28/12/2024 15:34

I only sent cards to family and two friends this year as not in great health , I really hope everyone else who sent me on decides not to from now on , I haven’t got anywhere to stand them and think it’s a complete waste of time and money

Nothatgingerpirate · 28/12/2024 15:58

I posted four, gave one.
Cannot be bothered anymore, next year it's gonna be even less.

Moonshine5 · 28/12/2024 16:00

Lol. Why does everyone who doesn't send a card say that they are donating instead? It's a mumsnet line.
People who send cards donate too!!!!!!

Moonshine5 · 28/12/2024 16:01

Love sending cards. Yes the stamps cost loads.

stripeystripedstripes · 28/12/2024 16:02

“One friend said I made her feel bad as I sent a card”

Wowsers, this person has issues that are not yours to fix.

fuzzychic · 28/12/2024 16:02

Moonshine5 · 28/12/2024 16:00

Lol. Why does everyone who doesn't send a card say that they are donating instead? It's a mumsnet line.
People who send cards donate too!!!!!!

Also a lot of cards include a donation

Cosyblankets · 28/12/2024 16:12

I only sent one
To an older lady having her first Christmas after losing her husband. We just wanted her to know we were thinking of her.
We got less than ten this year.

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