Where do you get your validation and support from if you are in an unhappy marriage?

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As the title suggests - DH and I have both been unhappy in our marriage for quite a while but unlikely to change. Sometimes it would be nice to have someone to support you though and make you feel like you are a fab person. Not sure if that makes sense. Obviously adults should mainly get validation from themselves. Of you are in a similar set up - do you bother getting support from elsewhere? Or if you are in a happy marriage - does your DH validate and support you? Does it matter?

Do you have friends? My friends and family were invaluable to me when I eventually decided to end the relationship.
I don't need external validation, I am quite self-contained person but I had a little wobble when my partner and I were separating. The first thing I did was to find a women-only exercise class. It was magical to be told by women how strong and powerful you are three days after life completely changed.

I do have friends though I am not sure how much support I get from them. No family as parents both deceased. Guess it's small things like having someone to ask about your day or give you a hug to say that it'll be ok. Dh barely speak to each other and when we do it's about the kids or when we are with the kids.

Your relationship sounds very lonely 🙁 are you sure you wouldn't be happier separating? You can of course get validation and support from friends but there is really no substitute for being in a loving relationship with a partner who you can share your life with and cuddle up with at the end of the day.

I have a few close friends and DD is a magnificent support which also upsets me as I know she shouldn’t have to be

I left and found someone better.

We probably should separate but live in London and I would you be able to buy anywhere. DH is not a bad person, we just aren't close and haven't shared a room in eight years.

Marriage counselling?

But also, validate and support yourself. Be your own cheerleader, learn to trust your own judgment.