Time to date but no time to see child?

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I think I just need a rant more than anything.

Split up with ex around 4 months ago. My choice. He was a terrible partner and father.

We share a very young child, under 2.

He's seen DC 3 times since the split, and not at all in 3 months. He's go no time apparently due to work.

But I've found out through mutual friends that he's in a new relationship. So he's had time to date and meet someone new, but not see our child.

I also wonder what he has told the new woman about why he doesn't see his child. Probably that I am a nightmare, which I'm not.

He didn't even see our child for Christmas, send a card or gift.

AIBU to be annoyed and hurt for my child?

He did want a boy, our child is a girl which I know he was disappointed about.

I think he saw her those 3 times initially after the split, possibly with hope I would change my mind. As he was doing a lot of questioning towards me. I think when he realised I would not engage in this and the handovers were strictly business and not an opportunity for his to weasel his way back in, he lost interest.

Just block his number and keep the contact to email only.

But don't initiate any contact.

I haven't got his number blocked, it's just archived but email a good idea.

I stopped initiating any contact months ago, and left it to him to contact or ask to see our child, which he didn't.

He’s a dickhead and he will not change and step up as a parent. The messsges are because he needs someone to blame for his failings.

You cannot change that. Just focus on yourself and DD.

This is very common among men. He is likely to come crawling back when DD is an adult and he is lonely. Keep all messages. Any time he messages you just respond asking him what contact he is proposing. Don’t say anything else.

@Rainbowqueeen yes I think it's probably to alleviate his own guilt and keep the narrative going in his head that he's not the bad guy