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Friend wants to constantly hang out

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purplegods64 · 27/12/2024 22:33

About a year ago, I moved back to my home town after uni and working away in another city for a while. During this time, my old school friend and I would message once a month and maybe see each other a couple of times a year.

Since moving back to the town we grew up in she messages every weekend to make plans to visit my flat or go out for coffee/lunch. She is an old friend but I feel we have over the years drifted away and no longer have very much in common. I don't enjoy hanging out with her and see it as a chore. Over the last couple of months I have tried to distance myself and will make up excuses as to why I am unavailable. She hasn't got the message and continues to message me to arrange plans.

I do not enjoy her company, find her overbearing and don't want to see her more than a few times a year at most. I feel like she has wanted to hang out more over the past year as now that I live closer it's convenient for her. Whilst living away she never visited, not at uni and not after I graduated. Could anyone offer any advice on how I can minimise contact without being harsh and hurting her feelings?

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LimeAnt · 27/12/2024 22:36

Tbh I'd just keep on ignore or brush her off 🤷 she wants to be a friend because of proximity and probably nostalgia.

TiredHippo · 28/12/2024 01:01

Life too short, if you don't want to hang out with her, just say you're really busy now and will struggle to meet up. You don't want to anyway, even if she ends up not liking you in the process, so what, you don't like her enough to meet anyway x

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