So I 40f decided to try a new hobby
I went in an evening one day a week mainly to meet new people and gain some skills.
My sister wanted ti have a go but doesnt drive so I agreed to take her for a few lessons
She enjoyed it but then I told her she needs to make her own way there and back as its a good 30 minutes out of my way (opposite to my house)
She said she would pay me the fuel monthly that I use on this plus a bit extra for my time
I agreed to this and the arrangement worked well.
The following month rolls round and no money lands in my account. I message her and she said she will send it. That's fine no problem with that.
It gets to the night of our hobby and still no money (6 days by this point).
I tell her if theres a reason she hasnt yet paid the money in, to let me know as i have asked for the last few days and there is an agreement in place BUT if there is an issue I'd like to know so I can try to help her if she needs it
I didn't obviously mind but I really don't like being lied to about banal things - if she couldn't manage it I would have understood completely
I also messaged her about some other randome bits and pieces and she read those but didn't bother replying, so I went to my class alone.
She rang me and asked where I was so I told her I assumed she didn't want to attend that night as she left me on read and never actually confirmed she wanted to come (this is something we always did just in case of illness)
She told me I was a selfish C**t and i was "up myself" because i can drive and that i was hounding her for the money (i asked 3 or 4 times!) I was also accused of gaslighting her and being manipulative
so I told her calmly that I was not selfish, and when I am being blatantly ignored (not even asking about the money at that point) I will not then drive to her to be told she was sick etc because it costs too much money in fuel, and it takes my time from my family
She then said that she isn't going to pay me this month, because it's a rip off and she can get taxis cheaper.
I said that this is absolutely fine and that I would just see her there from now on if the taxis work out better
I said to my DH that her language and the way she spoke to me were both outrageously out of line and that if she apologises and speaks to me in a proper manner I'll happily help again but AIBU?
- edit
She has no financial issues at all she just didn't value my time or the monthly it costs in fuel to get to her house from mine (Her SO told me this)
The monthly amount SHE suggested was £30 for lifts there and back
I sent 3 or 4 messages reminding about the money and got excuses back so I knew she didn't want to pay - just not Why.