To feel like a fun person surrounded by unfun people?

[JennyPenny222]

I know this sounds a bit harsh, but I feel like I'm a fun person who is trapped in a circle of unfun people, and it feels really noticeable (and sad :( ) at Xmas.
My parents don't like fun things like games, or joining in type activities. My
Mother particularly most of the things she talks about is negative, criticising or moaning about people, mood hoover stuff. My husband used to be super fun but has got less fun by the year and so feels like mostly grumpy and doesn't like to socialise. Quiet negative in the things he says, but unaware of how much of what he says is grumbling. My in laws are quiet people who don't really like to socialise, they were with us for Xmas day- arrived at noon and made their excuses to go by about 7pm. No lovely evening socialising for us. They have no real 'chat', not a lot to say.

I feel like I'm a social person but with no one to socialise with. I'm So envious when I see on Facebook people having fun parties and families playing games etc at Christmas, I really want that but my family just aren't those sort of people. I feel sad.

Lose the husband. He'll age you

We all have a different idea of what's fun OP. Maybe they're more introverted and you're more extroverted? Neitherbis wrong.

I feel you, in laws everything is a drama or negative or they all sit in silence. My family is just really small and don’t really enjoy activities, although can get some chat out of them.

I’m definitely an extrovert so have to get my social fix with my friends and my husband.

You need to get some friends.

Some friends who enjoy similar things.

I'm the same.

I found the "meet-up" groups quite good,

What about your friends?

Friends are fun but at Christmas it's family based for most as we have kids so it's a bit of a no go.

You really need to have your own fun with your kids, for your sake and definitely for theirs!

Well, find friends who don’t have children and/or are less family-minded?

Yes this! What about doing Christmas with friends who also have kids (providing the kids get on?) that sounds way more fun than dinner with the mood hoovers. Having kids doesn’t stop you doing something different at Christmas

I feel like this too op! Solidarity, it's hard at Christmas

Totally hear you my inlaws are fun sponges and enjoy being miserable. I'm drained from them stopping here xmas break

Same here.

However this year I managed to also invite some fun relatives which made a huge difference. I'm tired though and it won't happen every year as I don't host every year but really enjoyed myself.

Christmas is something I have had to endure more recently but we make up for it at NYE when we get our mates round and have a proper laugh.

Perhaps invite some friends in the evening?

I feel you OP, my MIL is a total dementor, my DH is an introvert and having spent Christmas with them both I feel really deflated. Normally I'm fine because I have lots going on with work, friends and other family and I love my DH's quiet, sensitive ways, but I really felt sad this year, Mostly because my MIL is such hard work and sucks the life out of everything.

Do fun stuff with your kids. Make your own party with them

Same here OP. I tend to just leave DH/DM/MIL in the kitchen to their moaning while I go in a different room with the kids to play games. I often wish the mothers wouldn't bother coming over at Christmas as they genuinely seem to hate every second of it!

Come round to ours op - you’d fit right in. The world needs more fun people! 🍹🎉

Yes, we’ve often gone away with or to visit friends, with or without children, at Christmas.

Well, children are notoriously serious and fun-heating so I can see your issue 🙄
Can't you do fun stuff with them? How old are they?