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AIBU?

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Hubby not helping whilst I rest

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MrsLJH · 27/12/2024 11:28

It's another husband one and mainly light hearted.

I will preface this with I have spoken to him but I just want to rant to faceless strangers more than anything.

Like for many mums the past few days have been very hectic. I took control of writing the Christmas food shopping lists, cooking Christmas dinner and hosting Christmas day (my parents came to stay so fairly reasonable for me to do this). It's our first year being able to host, I enjoyed it but it is so exhausting (we've 2 boys - 1 of whom is very likely neurodivergent - and a 7 month old puppy)

My husband has acknowledged I've done the lion's share of the burden and a couple of times thoughtly said "take your time getting ready" or "go have a lie down". This is lovely but when I come back all the jobs are still waiting for me or there is even more to do (the joys of excitable children and puppy). It wouldn't occur to him to do them or he just doesn't see what needs to be done. I didn't expect everything to be done but if someone told me to take some time to myself I would expect them to do a couple of the jobs whilst I was doing this.

Yabu - be grateful he told you to take a rest etc. if you wanted something done you should have specified
Yanbu - it was implied he would do some jobs whilst you were taking some time.

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BitterTits · 27/12/2024 11:30

YABU, but just tell him to do his share.

Twoshoesnewshoes · 27/12/2024 11:30

Sometimes people just need telling.
they shouldn’t, but they do.
so ask him to do a few chores next time and see if he pulls his weight.

BitterTits · 27/12/2024 11:30

I meant YANBU 😳😬

HotBath · 27/12/2024 11:33

What do you mean by ‘jobs’? Pools from the puppy, starving children because no one made them dinner?

MrsLJH · 27/12/2024 11:41

No puppy pools or starving kids but things like making discarded toy, sweets etc are off the floor and away from the puppy. Making sure his family presents are gathered up and ready to go 🤷🏼‍♀️

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