A good few years ago I was quite mistreated by mil, almost caused me and dp to split I ended up in hospital unwell because of the bullying! Most of Dp family have deleted me off Facebook with all silly excuses but I think it's quite obvious mil has slagged me off to them, obviously I can't be sure but it's quite obvious that's what's happened. It's very much I didn't do what she wanted so she turned on me ( happened with ex sil too )
My aibu is I decided a few years ago I wouldn't go to family gatherings with them all I felt so uncomfortable to the point it was making me unwell and dp was okay with me not going, me and mil are on good terms but after so long of trying to be part of and fit in with the family I've given up I've no interest anymore, however I got a text over Xmas really guilt tripping me into going to a family gathering like 4 or 5 sayings in the text like it would make my Xmas etc thing is I don't want too I don't want to go somewhere I feel so uncomfortable me and dp are in such a good place I don't want anything to ruin that again, I've spent yesterday with a migraine because of it, how do I manage this in the future ?
For the past 6 years I've said thanks but we are busy etc but it doesn't seem enough! X