You can lead a horse to water…

[NavyOrca]

What would you do if you knew someone was about to get married to a complete troublemaker and it would most likely be the biggest mistake they could ever make?

I’m not able to give details here for obvious reasons.

But there is solid evidence that the person is bad news and going into the marriage for the wrong reasons. Lots of people stand to get hurt.

Tried to point out these things to the person about to make the mistake, including providing evidence (screen shots, messages) but it falls on deaf ears. Even to the point of being accused of them being photoshopped screen shots. But they are completely genuine.

I feel powerless and dont know what can be done to stop a genuinely lovely family being torn apart.

There is nothing you can do. It is not your role to manage peoples lives.

You have said your piece, so just leave it now.

The only behaviour you can control is your own. You were upfront about what you understand to be the issues. You can do no more, unless you’re planning to bob up at the ‘Does anyone know of any impediment?’ bit.

If they're getting married then I doubt they've only been together a matter of months? Even if the person has form for causing trouble or drama, they may not be like that with their partner. Or their partner might be fully aware they come with 'issues', and could be happy to turn a blind eye...

Whatever is going on it's their choice to be with whoever they choose

Get a member of the wedding party to object during the ceremony, have everyone else who’s against it stand up, and then finally have an older man who the almost-wedded sees as a parental figure slowly stand up too.

You can only provide the evidence, which you have. You and control other people beyond this.

The OP isn’t directing a movie.

I’m not going to the wedding.

Well my idea was more of a TV reunion Christmas special vibe…

It shoulda been me?

Christ - no.. not at all. I’m happily married.

Just be there to support when it goes wrong.

and try not to say , I did warn you

It's infuriating but you can't do anything from this point. I had a veryyyyy similar situation this year. He was cheating, I showed her screenshots, she believed whatever nonsense excuses he made, she married him anyway because she had a timeline of milestones in her head and wanted a baby. They're doomed. I did my part, I tried to watch out for another woman, turns out she was as toxic as him.

As long as you've done everything with good intentions, I think it's fair to say something but only once. Now you have to leave them to it.

We begged a friend not to marry her boyfriend because he was awful and an on line gambler.

She married him anyway. He stopped her speaking to us and she has now lost everything.

So sad.

It’s painful to watch. I don’t get how one person can be so deluded..