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People who sit on their brake lights give me the rage

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Tusktusk · 26/12/2024 23:49

When I’m stuck in a traffic jam and it’s dark, I inevitably end up behind a huge car with super bright brake lights and the driver just sits there for the whole wait time - a good 15 minutes tonight as I was caught up in traffic leaving a big football match - with their foot on the brake, half blinding me with their brake lights!

It seems most people do this now and most modern cars have these super bright in your face brake lights - especially big family 4x4 type of cars. I find it really inconsiderate. Why don’t people use the handbrake in these situations? It’s so much nicer to take all your feet off the pedals and relax while you wait. Plus you won’t be blinding the poor soul sitting behind you!

Is it just me?

OP posts:
BIossomtoes · 27/12/2024 19:39

BigBoysDontCry · 26/12/2024 23:56

It annoys the fuck out of me also OP . I seem to be the only other person on the planet that applies my hand brake.

Our car hasn’t got a handbrake. Unless you turn the engine off the brake lights stay on when the car’s stationary.

Tusktusk · 27/12/2024 19:40

@ForReasonsUnknown I was being sarcastic to make a point. If it’s fine to ignore one part of the Highway Code we may as well ignore all of it.

OP posts:
tigger1001 · 27/12/2024 19:41

TizerorFizz · 27/12/2024 19:18

I was responding to the post about dazzling from behind.

I’ve explained why I think sitting on the brake pedal is increasing. There’s little anyone can do. It’s safer to have bright rear lights in drizzle, rain and light fog. Ditto front lights. Auto dimming headlights can slow to dim on some cars but this can be overridden. Some cars have poorly adjusted lights too. I have to say I’m rarely bothered by bright headlights. I think it’s an age issue but I’m nearly 70 and I don’t want to go back to yellow glow worms on my country lanes. See and be seen is generally safer!

But for many that's the issue - the cars are seen yes, but they blind so drivers can't see. I want to to be able to see, but struggle with some of the really bright lights.

There is some kind of midway between the lower lights of the past and the ultra bright lights of some cars.

I drive on country roads and really hate it at night these days due to some cars lights. Not all cars - just some.

Tusktusk · 27/12/2024 19:42

BIossomtoes · 27/12/2024 19:39

Our car hasn’t got a handbrake. Unless you turn the engine off the brake lights stay on when the car’s stationary.

Not a problem as long as they aren’t designed in such a way to hurt my eyes when I’m sitting behind you.

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HelplessSoul · 27/12/2024 19:46

tigger1001 · 27/12/2024 15:44

Well given the number of petitions on it it certainly seems that a staggering number of people struggle with the brightness of the new vehicle lights. I've signed a couple of these myself.

It's the subject of many internet threads. Not just here.

I would put it to you this way - I think much more people struggle than you realise.

It's dangerous to have lights so bright that drivers are blinded and can't see their own side of the road, you might want to argue that point, but that's the reality for many drivers these days.

I've spoken to my optician about it the last few eye tests - and their comments each time is it's a very common complaint people ask about during an eye test as they assume it's their eyes rather than the super bright led lights newer cars have.

Why can't some people understand that it's a real issue these days?

Threads and petitions dont add up to "staggering" in numerical terms. Certainly not even 10m, much less 10 percent, for example.

And suspect on that basis, car makers and policy makers are happy to leave current light output unchanged for now.

Allergictoironing · 27/12/2024 19:52

I was taught that constantly changing from Neutral/Park to Drive wears the gearbox out on an automatic car much quicker. As someone who a) has to drive an automatic due to disability and b) can't afford a shiny new car so currently has a knackered Focus with over 100k on the clock, I need to take care of my gearbox.

I can remember the days when massive HGVs would have 2 tiny, dim, dirty rear lights right down the bottom so in poor conditions you wouldn't see them until you were almost on top of them. Not the safest when on an unlit motorway! I agree that some do seem to be very bright in recent years, but in my case the diagnosis of cataracts and the subsequent lens replacements have had a massive difference to the glare (positively).

Balloonhearts · 27/12/2024 19:52

ThisTeaIsBad · 26/12/2024 23:59

If I put my car (automatic) in park it takes ages to get going again. I put it in drive, put my foot down, the car has to think about it a bit then put it in gear and then eventually I start moving. By this time the car in front has gone through the traffic lights and they have turned red again. So I sit with my foot on the brake. Sorry.

Yeah same, I get beeped for taking too long if I do that. Foot on brake, back into drive before I can release the handbrake and then gas to move off. Just takes too long when you're at traffic lights that change in literally seconds.

If I leave it in drive and just hold the brake it keeps revs up a little and moves off as soon as I release it. But then, I've never been bothered by brake lights personally, never seen any that bright.

It's these knobheads driving around with fog lights on in the middle of a blazing 30 degree day that irritate me. And LED headlights. Wtf needs headlights that bright? But it's not the fault of the driver, it's the manufacturers making them so overly bright and not angling them downwards far enough.

Blushingm · 27/12/2024 20:16

TizerorFizz · 27/12/2024 18:32

Jeez! Some of you need some driving lessons in automatic cars before you go on the road for real.

P is on the gear shift in an automatic. It’s nothing to do with a hand brake. You shift the lever to P and leave it there with your foot off the brake pedal. When you want to move off, engage D. Never use N as the car is not controlled. Just use P, D or R as required. Any other brake is not needed.

If you are on a hill, most automatics will sit there with D engaged. They don’t roll back and they won’t go forward unless you want them to and press the accelerator. You can engage P and then D if you wish. No hand brake button or lever is required at any stage. Nor a foot on the brake. I virtually never use my handbrake buttons. P is sufficient.

Regarding electric. Mine can be switched into P with a separate button. Then I have to engage D via the gear paddle after I have released P. I can see plenty won’t bother to switch into P but will just use the brake pedal and stay in D. It’s much easier to do this but obviously annoying.

Many newer cars have brighter lights. Just dim your interior mirror! You can pull in wing mirrors too. Or just let the car go past you.

Auto hold engages when you come to a stop - you can take your foot off all pedals - it can still roll unless auto hold is engaged

I drive an auto and I don't have P on my lever - I only have D N & R. My car only goes into P if I actually press the separate button or it's on auto hold and I turn off the engine

MasterBeth · 27/12/2024 21:59

Get your eyes checked.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 27/12/2024 22:32

Well this thread explains a lot. I was always confused when I rode with someone from Europe or the UK. I’d never seen the handbrake (I’m assuming this is the same as the parking brake) applied at a stoplight except for those areas.

yeah we don’t do that here (US), you just use the (foot) brake when you’re stopped unless it’s a really bad traffic jam (at about the 15 min mark) when you’d just put the car in park. For a manual I think most will just take it out of gear but yeah still using the brake. I’ve always driven an automatic and can’t say I’ve ever used the emergency brake before… the only time I’d use it I guess would be parking on a hill…and I’ve always lived in flat places.

Justsaywhatyoumean123 · 27/12/2024 23:01

Weirdly just came across this post on threads. Interesting point about not reading the car handbook anymore.

link

TizerorFizz · 27/12/2024 23:09

@Blushingm What is “auto hold”? My cars are between 2011 and 2024 and none have this. Not even my 34 year old SL300 Merc. There’s a “handbrake” lever or button and there’s P. There’s D which will hold on a hill with the engine going. N would let it roll with foot off brake. What control is auto hold?

TizerorFizz · 27/12/2024 23:10

Most cars don’t have dazzling lights. I think a few people need eye tests.

HelplessSoul · 28/12/2024 06:30

TizerorFizz · 27/12/2024 23:10

Most cars don’t have dazzling lights. I think a few people need eye tests.

Precisely.

And which is why, despite petitions etc, its unlikely that rules and regulations around vehicle lighting strengths will be changed any time soon.

Nc546888 · 28/12/2024 06:35

WiseLurker · 26/12/2024 23:55

I've got a 2024 car, it doesn't have a physical handbrake and has a button instead.

You can't use the handbrake button without putting the car in park first, obviously I don't put the car into park in traffic.

It also has brake assist, if I've been sat with the brakes on for a couple of seconds it auto holds and I can take my foot off the pedals, though the brake lights are still active.

Perhaps rather than foaming about other people, you should talk to your optician about why you find lights are 'half blinding' you.

Yes same here. New car, handbrake is just for parking. Car holds itself in brake at traffic light automatically

Nc546888 · 28/12/2024 06:36

TizerorFizz · 27/12/2024 23:09

@Blushingm What is “auto hold”? My cars are between 2011 and 2024 and none have this. Not even my 34 year old SL300 Merc. There’s a “handbrake” lever or button and there’s P. There’s D which will hold on a hill with the engine going. N would let it roll with foot off brake. What control is auto hold?

Our Audi q5 has auto hold (don’t know the correct term) but if you break on a slight incline at traffic lights then it holds itself until you press drive again. I don’t know if it’s because it an automatic or something

tigger1001 · 28/12/2024 06:43

"Threads and petitions dont add up to "staggering" in numerical terms. Certainly not even 10m, much less 10 percent, for example.

And suspect on that basis, car makers and policy makers are happy to leave current light output unchanged for now."

www.express.co.uk/life-style/cars/1993484/drivers-bright-headlights-warning/amp

www.rac.co.uk/drive/news/rac-news/government-confirms-igo-ahead-with-research-into-impact-of-headlights/

89% of the rac drivers surveyed said they found the new lights too bright - quite the staggering number I would suggest...

You can say it's not a problem all you want. And I'm glad for you it isn't. Sadly though for many it is. And not just drivers either.

Hopefully the government will actually do something about it. Given the conservatives also said they would commission research it seems to have cross party support.

HelplessSoul · 28/12/2024 07:11

RAC surveyed 2000 people. Or 0.00004% of the 50m licensed drivers in the UK.

Proof that its not "staggering".

In addition, whatever comes out of this research, it wont be legally binding on car manufacturers - the majority of whom produce cars outside of the UK, but then are imported into the UK under EU rules.

Think many European, Chinese, Japanese and other car brands. In isolation - this Govt research and its findings is unlikely to have the muscle to make unilateral changes.

tigger1001 · 28/12/2024 07:27

HelplessSoul · 28/12/2024 07:11

RAC surveyed 2000 people. Or 0.00004% of the 50m licensed drivers in the UK.

Proof that its not "staggering".

In addition, whatever comes out of this research, it wont be legally binding on car manufacturers - the majority of whom produce cars outside of the UK, but then are imported into the UK under EU rules.

Think many European, Chinese, Japanese and other car brands. In isolation - this Govt research and its findings is unlikely to have the muscle to make unilateral changes.

You do know how surveys and polls work, right?

Is it so hard to accept that many people struggle with these ultra bright lights?

And that they cause a danger to road users?

Barrenfieldoffucks · 28/12/2024 07:30

HelplessSoul · 28/12/2024 07:11

RAC surveyed 2000 people. Or 0.00004% of the 50m licensed drivers in the UK.

Proof that its not "staggering".

In addition, whatever comes out of this research, it wont be legally binding on car manufacturers - the majority of whom produce cars outside of the UK, but then are imported into the UK under EU rules.

Think many European, Chinese, Japanese and other car brands. In isolation - this Govt research and its findings is unlikely to have the muscle to make unilateral changes.

Yes, but out of that number, 80% voted the same way. That is statistically significant. That's how polls work.

HelplessSoul · 28/12/2024 07:59

tigger1001 · 28/12/2024 07:27

You do know how surveys and polls work, right?

Is it so hard to accept that many people struggle with these ultra bright lights?

And that they cause a danger to road users?

Not a single post of mine in this thread/topic has dismissed peoples struggles.

I agree that bright lights are an issue, however, this thread is about brake lights, not headlights.

The OP claimed car OEMs exceeded the brake light brightness rules (for aesthetics or some other claptrap), yet has provided no scrap of evidence to back that statement up.

The rather single-pointed point I've made is about car OEMs conforming their lights to the regulations/policies laid out to them.

tigger1001 · 28/12/2024 08:02

@HelplessSoul the thread moved on to discuss lights in general.

HelplessSoul · 28/12/2024 08:05

tigger1001 · 28/12/2024 08:02

@HelplessSoul the thread moved on to discuss lights in general.

So what if it did - I'm merely talking about the OP and the gripe about brake lights.

People could complain about solar lights for all I care, but thats not what the OP started the thread about (nor what I am discussing).

ARealitycheck · 28/12/2024 08:09

Allergictoironing · 27/12/2024 19:52

I was taught that constantly changing from Neutral/Park to Drive wears the gearbox out on an automatic car much quicker. As someone who a) has to drive an automatic due to disability and b) can't afford a shiny new car so currently has a knackered Focus with over 100k on the clock, I need to take care of my gearbox.

I can remember the days when massive HGVs would have 2 tiny, dim, dirty rear lights right down the bottom so in poor conditions you wouldn't see them until you were almost on top of them. Not the safest when on an unlit motorway! I agree that some do seem to be very bright in recent years, but in my case the diagnosis of cataracts and the subsequent lens replacements have had a massive difference to the glare (positively).

When driving an automatic you should be putting the car in neutral when stopped with the engine running at traffic lights. Use the cars handbrake for the duration of the time stopped. You should only be using park once the car is stopped and you intend turning the car off.

Moving into and out of neutral won't wear the box but sitting with it in and foot on brake drive does put pressure on the torque converter in the gearbox.

I worked in a garage for a number of years and the proportion of auto cars that failed the mot due to park brake not operating was unreal as they never got used.

tigger1001 · 28/12/2024 08:13

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