I categorically don't give people cards for Christmas

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Or birthdays really, unless they give me a card, in which case I feel like I need to give one back.

In laws always give me a card for my birthday so I give one back, but that's literally it.

BIL/SIL birthday I give a present without a card. They also don't give me a card, so I don't feel I need to give them a card.

In my family, no one does cards so it's just not something to worry about.

At Christmas, zero cards. My husband gives the neighbours one. But that's it.

Is that acceptable or does it make me a bit of a dick ? I give flowers or presents and they might have a little tag on them, that's it though.

I just find it a bit annoying. I want to keep sticking to it because I've never done it and don't really want to change now..

Obviously if no one in your family does cards you won’t be offending anyone. Why would you?

What's the dilemma?

You don't do cards, your family doesn't do cards.

DH does cards, his family does cards.

We send cards to very immediate family who live away and would be pissy if they didn't get one. Otherwise no, can't justify the waste.

So what’s the problem? You’re happy with your decision.

I send a few to older family but mainly I've stopped doing cards too and make a donation to charity instead.

I think Christmas cards are definitely dying out. I enjoyed receiving them at primary school as did my kids but after that, I’m not bothered about receiving a card and a message, call or face to face greeting has sufficed. I’ve sent no Christmas cards in the last decade at least and feel no guilt.

I do send birthday cards though but I don’t have an excessive number to send so it’s not a big deal.

I don’t either but I’m very lazy and don’t see the point. My neighbours send me a card every year even though they don’t get one in return. I sometimes feel bad about that but they must realise I won’t send one back by now

This.

I mean, the thing that YABU about is feeling obliged to send a card if someone gives you one. If you don't like sending cards, then own it.

My dad gets cards at Christmas, birthday, and Father’s Day. I don’t automatically do cards for anybody else.

Sounds a non event