Ex who is (sorry excuse of a) father to our DD had Christmas contact this year. I've celebrated today with DD.
Ex is vile and abusive. A classic textbook narcissist. He's had two relationships since I left him and he domestically abused both of these women. In my opinion he's a waste of skin.
However, on behalf of DD being able to acknowledge him on Christmas day we went to the shop and got him a card and present.
DD was really excited to give him the present. It was a £4.99 gift from card factory. I wrapped it up for her to give to him.
Well.. she returned early this morning and went to get something out of her back pack that she takes for overnight contact and low and behold the unwrapped gift is put back in her bag which she found. DD was confused and upset and asked if her dad didn't like her gift.
So I'm left explaining to a 7 year old that perhaps he put it in there by mistake or forgot to take it out.
I know he's done it on purpose because he knows I would've paid for the gift and doesn't want to accept it despite it being from his daughter. DD hand picked this gift for him.
He'd rather upset his daughter than dispose of the gift after she's left just to spite me.
Aibu to think he's an arsehole of the highest order?
This is in a long line of un child focussed things he's done such as not taking her to activities or parties, demanding she can't participate in her activities that fall on his weekend and I must remove her and make her available to him, trying to control her friendships as he's racist as DD goes to a diverse school.
I wish I could press delete on him. I felt heartbroken for DD when she asked if her dad didn't like her present.