To persue this man

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Fancy a man at work
we text back and forth and he’s eluded to me coming over for dinner but he has ALOT of personal issues ,problems with his sons behaviour and a recent split from his partner.
i don’t want anything serious as I’m recently divorced but just want sex and company once a week or so
i definitely feel an attraction,am I being silly to persue it

Don't do it. So many ways this could go wrong especially with you working together.

Look.elsewhere

So you want sex and company and no strings? Please tell me how that works.

Nope, not with someone from work who also has issues.

Basically begging for trouble!

Leave it...sounds like a lot of hard work.

Yes. You’d be ridiculous. Coming over for dinner is just another way of saying he might shag you if you’d be willing to deliver yourself to his front door like a dominoes pizza. The sex won’t be on your terms it’ll end up being on his and then it’s awkward at work and you’ll feel stupid

It could cause problems at work if he wants more or if people find out.

allude, pursue.

Probably this.

Baggage brings drama.
Drama beings shoulders and support.
Shoulders and support catch feelings.

Dangerous game I think OP.

If he's just split from a partner then he's likely to be emotionally vulnerable, and might not be on the same page as you. He might want more than a regular shag and it could become messy

Give him some time to get over his ex, and if you're still wanting him then it might work

You're recently divorced and he's recently split with his now ex. You've both got the fanny gallops (and whatever the male equivalent is) at the freedom.

If you didn't work together I'd say go for it.

Just frig yourself senseless thinking about him instead. The fantasy will be better than the reality anyway.

Get the sex elsewhere not with a work colleague.

If you are just a casual thing, sorry to be basic but don't shit where you eat.

Get yourself on Tinder.

This simply isn't worth it.

Can you not have sex and fun with someone without it turning into anything more?
forgive me if I’m out of touch I’ve been married for 10 years?
a friend with benefits

and we work at the same place but it’s a huge company in Greater London
think like BT or something on that scale.

Fanny gallops 🤣

If you want uncomplicated no-strings-attached sex, find someone without such significant personal problems that a colleague knows all about them.

When you’re both fresh out of divorce/relationships you’re both at risk of becoming too attached really, or the opposite and not ready which then makes things really awkward.

If you want to try then go for it, but not with someone you ever have to see again if it goes badly, so not someone you work with. If you’re seeing him enough at work that you’re dying to shag him then you’re seeing him enough that it would be painfully awkward if it all goes terribly wrong.

It rarely works like that. Friends with benefits is a very rare thing. He’ll probably just shag you and you won’t hear from him again or only when he’s pissed and no better options and frankly if you’re older than 35 there will be younger and more exciting options on tinder

Duly noted
this has made me think
thankyou

Nope

Fallout not worth it if it’s casual you looking for.

He’s told me them

If this man has recently split from his partner and his son has behaviour issues, then quite honestly, he has enough on his plate. Getting involved with someone who has a lot of personal problems, could end up being messy and exhausting. Honestly, leave well alone. If this was a year down the road, and things had settled down with his son etc, then I'd say 'see where it goes', but at the moment, that isn't the situation.

I know you’re all right I just really fancy him
but in my head where I’m 42 I know it’s a bad idea
just my vag has other ideas

thankyou all

But you said you wanted company in your OP