Long story short my dad has intentionally gone no contact with me, approx 18 months he wished me well with my life. I am not going to get into the back story but it was not our conflict that led to this decision but wider second family issues and I guess as he is getting on in years he chose the easiest life for him. His decision, my hurt but I’ve been respecting it.
He sent me a text the morning of my wedding. I sent him a message on Father’s Day, he thanked me. He did not message on mine or my son’s birthday, that’s the extend of the contact - he has not deleted me on Facebook but he doesn’t interact either.
today he paid money into my account, no message. It will be for my son for Christmas. I know because he paid a sibling also.
is it unreasonable and ungrateful to not acknowledge it?
id rather have two minutes of his time or a even a text than silent money.
I feel so torn and hurt whatever I will choose.
I do not have his bank details to return it before anyone suggests it.