Aibu to be upset about being excluded from album

[OneEdgyTiger]

It’s a wedding photo album so I know the main focus is the couple so appreciate i might be being unreasonable and misplacing my upset. Couple are my partners sister and her husband I have been with partner for 15 years and they have shown their wedding album and not a single picture of me or our child my partner is in multiple pictures and there are shots of all other family members uncles aunts second cousins etc it feels like a statement to show the people they loved to celebrate with and that does not include me also feel sad for my child to look at it when they are a bit older and think they weren’t even there as they will be too young to remember. Would you be upset or do you think I am being unreasonable.

YANBU they were mean to miss you out but I doubt your child will ever look at their album in the future.

I doubt they spent hours carefully crafting an album that specifically excluded you.

Much more likely they just weren't thinking of you and you happen to not be in the photos they liked the most.

Depends how close you are to the couple in question?
Even though shes your 'sister in law' are you and your child actually close to her and her husband?

Edit: Maybe the shots with you or your child in it didn't turn out right for some reason.

I’m not in my sister and brother in laws wedding album either. They asked for my son who was in my arms and he went with his dad to the photos. I wasn’t invited to be in any photos at all even when they did the ‘grooms side of the family’ photos.

however, nobody bar the wedding couple will ever look at it. So I wouldn’t worry about it

Usually the photographer has a list of family to make sure everyone is in at least one photo. So bride's family, groom's, both families, friends etc. Has your partner noticed? Are they upset too?

Were there photos of you they could have used?

I wouldn’t be bothered about it tbh who’s even going to look at the album

No YANBU . You’re right to be miffed. Same happened to me . Annoyingly my SIL was one of my bridesmaids at the behest of my mother which I was happy to do around the same time and there were countless photos of her taken with her side of family members (gran etc). I was upset but too polite to say anything to cause drama or upset dh . At best I like to think she was thoughtless and too preoccupied but in later years I realised I was not important to her after many other snubs big & small and just simply not on her radar. I don’t bother with her anymore . < shrug>

Our wedding album had no pictures of our best man - not intentional, we were too busy to notice at the time, and the photographer obviously missed it. Sometimes life is not perfect

Nothing more boring than looking through other people's wedding albums.

Nobody will ever look at it again, apart from the bride and groom.

Let your DH deal with remembering to send them wedding anniversary cards/messages.

MIL's sister did a photo dispay for the wall at her 60th. Despite DD and her cousin featuring me and BIL didn't.
It was 15 years ago and I will never ever forgive her for that, we got on fine so I have no idea why she did it.

I don't it was malicious, they just never noticed. And there is zero chance your child will ever look at it.

My mother did this to me
She's a narc and I'm the scapegoat
I went to their shitty 25th anniversary party and if you look at the albums,ìt looks like I didn't bother to go
Endless photos of random-havent-seen-in-50-years relatives,but none of me
Even the big family framed picture-im not in that (I was shoved at the end and not in shot)

It hurt a lot at the time and I'm now nc

I can remember showing my DCs photo albums innocently at my PIL thinking it would be a nice thing - all the photos at mine and DH wedding were ones that didn't include me and there were photos of DHs ex girlfriend in the album. But none of me. And then photos of the DC and DH but not of me. Carefully selected.

Awkward to explain the snub at the time - who's that lady, where's my mummy - but as DH is now an ex and we have no contact with ex PIL not an ongoing issue as DSs will never see the albums again.

But it stings that people are so deliberately hurtful. Best to step away from them.

Absolutely no one looks at wedding albums after the first time they're shown them. They are boring as hell. Don't sweat it