AIBU - ILs visiting, poorly baby

[CookieMonster28]

AIBU?

ILs were due to visit for 2 nights last weekend but as MIL unwell we postponed to this coming weekend.

DD (18 months) now has a stinking cold, is not herself at all and has not been sleeping well at all the past 2 nights, up every hour etc. I'm also heavily pregnant.

AIBU thinking we should postpone again? DH is adamant it's all ok, but realistically it'll be all on me...I'll be expected to host, cook and look after poorly DD. ILs are very hands off and can lack empathy (ie: will laugh if DD upset) and also feel DH has downplayed heavy cold and lack of sleep to ILs who'd be letting themselves in for 2 nights of potentially rubbish sleep!

What would you do? (Aware this is partially a DH problem but I've given up trying to talk to him about it now!)

If you had a helpful husband and helpful kind in laws, I'd say just go ahead.

As you haven't, then I'd definitely rearrange

Let them come but make sure dh knows he's doing it all. If he doesn't take yourself off into baby's room to rest.

First reply nails it

Your PILs laugh if your toddler daugher is upset? They sound like arseholes and I certainly wouldn't put myself out to host them and cook for them. If your DH insists on having them, tell him that you are not doing any of the work.

Take yourself to bed when they arrive and stay there until they leave.

Let them come and make it very clear to DH that he is in charge of shopping/cooking/cleaning/making beds and entertaining his parents. You will be resting and looking after poorly DC. Hopefully by the weekend she will be feeling better 😌

Either cancel or tell DH that 100% of the cooking and hosting is on him then stick to it.

Tell your dh that he is doing the shopping, cooking, getting the beds ready, bathroom cleaning etc. Look after your child. Do nothing for your in laws.

This.

I agree with others. Your DH is hosting and taking care of everything related to their visit.

The options that you need to give your DH are these:

1. He steps up and does the hosting - this includes the cooking too and if he can't cook, he sorts out food through takeaways etc. leaving you to look after your unwell child OR
2. You postpone until such time as EVERYONE is well.

That's it. There are only two options. Which one will he pick??

You need to seriously tell DH that he has to host his family, or the visit is off. Maybe you can manage some cooking if that is normally your role, but he needs to make up the beds, tidy and clean your home, take them out and sit and talk to them at home, while you look after DD.