To be relieved to have been really ill on Christmas Day?

[Hollytimes]

I’ve been properly ill, really bad cold symptoms and cough so no way anyone can say I should have dragged myself out of bed. Such a relief not to have to go to in-laws!

I’m still glad for the year I was very unwell and it meant we couldn’t travel to in-laws. Even more so as they got a takeaway from a crap place I can’t stand rather than Xmas dinner and it was 3 hours late.

Why can't you just not go to the in laws? Why do you have to be ill to avoid it? What would happen if next year you said you were going to have Xmas at home?

I'm so jealous. I feel like death walking but I'm a single mum so had to do everything myself. Tomorrow have family visiting so it's not over. I wish I could have a day in bed. You absolutely are not unreasonable Christmas shouldn't be this hard on women

If you don't like your in-laws that's a shame. Unless they are abusive obviously

I’d love that! I don’t think DH would mind either but I don’t think he can stand up to the emotional blackmail from his mother, it would be literally beyond him and she can be very intense.

Not abusive, just not that nice, never made me very welcome. Mostly would ignore me when i was there but if I didn’t go without a good reason would make DH feel bad. I've spent years just dealing with it and pretending for the sake of kids so great to have a genuine reason to miss it.

I feel this. I've had eight weeks of covering almost everyone at work who has been off sick as well as doing everything for Christmas. Single parent with two teens.

I managed to get Christmas dinner on the table under the influence of paracetamol but now I'm bedridden. Its a relief to get a rest today.

I’d have been the same when kids were smaller! It does get easier - now they can bring me tea in bed! On the other hand I’ll be worrying about some boy DD has said she’s seeing on Boxing Day…

A dose of festive illness is a great leveller - your focus switches from stuffing to stiffing, as in "am I going to live past Boxing Day?" It is all too easy to slip into overdrive at this time of year so take it easy and eat chocolate (it is known to be medicinal and cures most things). 🤗

Bet you were in heaven!

I have just come down with something awful. Even my eyes are hurting. Just can’t face what’s in store later today. Thankfully have.day nurse packed.
We are doing a second Christmas Day today so need to find the reserves from somewhere..

So jealous! In the same boat as you (as is DH) but my DD is 2 and staying in bed isn't an option.

That's my experience, off today. In the blink of an eye i've known them 30 years but it's the same connection as just meeting yesterday.
Less so, because they don't want to impress and it's become more obvious recently.
Likely we are ill and they are old so it's going to be very brief!

Only you make it as difficult as you make it.

Tomorrow have family visiting so it's not over. I'm so sorry, but I'm ill, I don't want you to come, I've got bugs i wouldn't want you to catch, and im not feeling up to visitors, hope you have a lovely day.

That's how easy it is.

YABVU. We all have flu in our house so the DC are having a really crappy Christmas. I would give anything to be well enough to see people, even the in laws.

I knew I was going to come down with something once all the stress of Christmas day was over and I have. DH has been managing the toddler and bringing me cups of tea in bed, it is wonderful (apart from feeling quite so awful) Ive said to him that we are having a quiet one next year and he agrees