Should husband speak up

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We hosted Xmas today. When clearing up and re entering the room I heard my FIL & SIL chatting, well taking the piss out of me for something that happened 10 mins earlier. They didn’t know I had come back into the room, I said you know it is bloody rude what you’re doing. I have hosted today and I have to listen to this. I left the room and continued to clear up.SIL said well this is awkward & called a taxi. Made an apology to my husband . He didn’t have a clue what had happened as wasn’t in the room. I said he should maybe speak to his dad clear the air, as it’s best not to leave it. He said no way it’s not for him to do. Is this unreasonable to ask?

YANBU

They’re all a bunch of cunts!

It absolutely is for him to do but expect her to cry and deny it, making you the bad guy

no its not on him as he wasn’t party to the conversation. Go in to your FIL with DH and say you expect an apology.

Well done for speaking up! But yes, your dh should also speak up

I don't get what you mean by the clear the air? He should absolutely have a massive go at both of them. He shouldn't be the peacemaker in my opinion. That's on them

Don’t host these horrible people again. I would make a point of refusing to see or speak to them again without an apology. Your DH can help facilitate this or not, his choice.

Thanks; he feels it would be confrontational of him to do so. I actually don’t want him to do anything other than say listen ‘wife’ was upset listening to that. I see her point and she wasn’t in the wrong for speaking up. As most people left due to the awkwardness of me saying to them.

Not so much the peacemaker. His dad is a lovely man, and I do think it was SIL making comment and he laughed and made a joke back. Usually SiL is also lovely and comes across very softly fluffy type person. I was a bit stressed and snapped. I probably should have ignored them and messaged the next day.

No. You were right.

No, don't doubt yourself OP. How many people post on here kicking themselves because they wished they had had the guts to say something? You stood up for yourself, they could have apologised there and then rather than just running away. I'd hazard a guess this isn't the first time they've taken the piss out of you.

Let them stew and your husband is a massive disappointment for not having your back

Honestly I think it will be. Well definitely not his dad he’s just a lovely older man. SIL I don’t spend lots of time with and she’s been out the country for many years. I just saw red , which was after a stressful 20 mins of chaos in the house and snapped back. My daughter who 12 witnessed it and said no mum that wasn’t right. I think I am annoyed I didn’t stay in the room and have a discussion. I just left the room after saying that - probably was awkward. I should have stayed and then heard the response. 🤦‍♀️ anyway I’d just like him to clear the air with his dad. Not bothered about SIL I won’t see her for another year.