Back story-DH is depressed, been going on since he took early retirement a few years ago, he had some kind of breakdown after quite manic behaviour which involved mental health team.
Now he as very little interest in anything, tends to stay in bed most days till 6pm ish, then will sit & watch tv, he will often cook our dinner (we eat late). (That’s for another thread).
He gets bad tempered if I interfere or make a suggestions when he’s cooking. He sees it that if he’s cooking he does it all with no input from me.
So today at 11am I put the joint in the slo-cooker, presuming he was staying in bed, he appeared in the kitchen and when I asked him if he was ok he became angry and said no and that I was doing it again interfering with today’s meal.
I explained that I didn’t know what time he was getting up and the joint needed to go in. He’s told me I’ve ruined the day due to just doing what I wanted to do as usual! I said he didn’t say he was cooking todays meal his reply was that he does most of the cooking so I should have known.
He’s now gone back to bed. AIBU? With hindsight it should have being discussed about today’s meal, but it didn’t cross my mind and I’ve been busy with work, run up to Christmas etc. It’s only us at home so it will not affect anyone else’s day.