To wonder why she can’t not comment for one day!

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Omg my dsis can’t not comment on my weight for one day. It’s Christmas Day and so far I’ve already had “oh what do you weigh now you must be max 10st” “oh you’ve no arse” “what size clothes are you in now” plus a few others I can’t remember. Why do people feel the need to do this? I mean I’d rather people just kept their gob shut. My sister is overweight herself but has recently lost some but I haven’t commented although I think she’d secretly like me too. It’s not my place to say anything. She’s always been quite competitive when it comes to weight so I don’t know why I expected her to say nothing especially when I haven’t seen her for a while and have probably lost another half stone. I’ve also caught her a few times looking me up and down which makes me majorly uncomfortable.
AIBU to feel annoyed? It’s Christmas Day after all.

Tell her to shut the fuck up

That would drive me nuts.

Start crying. Tell her it's been a stressful year. Followed by please stop reminding me l don't have a lovely curvy bottom like yours.

My mother did this for years.. The first thing she said when we saw each other was either ‘you’ve lost weight’ or ‘you’ve gained weight’. Funnily enough, we have no relationship now and I keep her well away from my daughter! She made one comment on my daughter’s weight when she was around 10 and hasn’t seen her since. It’s so, so damaging!

Congratulations on your weight loss, op. It’s very hard but I’m sure you look and feel great for it.

Happy Christmas! 🎄

I have found in the past that people who make an issue about your weight are the ones that have a problem with their own weight and project it on to others. This will repeatedly happen with her until you find a way of saying to her that her opinion doesn't count, otherwise she will always be like this.

Why do people feel the need to do this?
They don't. Your sister chooses to be rude and thick.
Have you told her she is not to comment on your body?

This is the only reasonable response to your sister.

You should always have a cream bun handy to shove in her pie hole every time she comments.

To be fair she’s not being nasty she says it lightheartedly but still it annoys the F out of me. I don’t like attention and have lost weight for me for my health etc and a side effect of that is I look and feel better in my clothes but I dare to wear something that is a little tight (as opposed to oversized or baggy) I can feel that she will comment or that’s she’s looking at me in a weird way.

I haven’t told her no. I have anxiety and I’m not good with confrontation or potential confrontation hence why I have been a push over all of my life. I’m trying to work on this though.

If you’ve otherwise got a good relationship, I’m surprised you’ve not once said “well done on your weight loss”, especially if you know she’d quite like you too (which doesn’t tie in with you saying it’s not your business to comment on her).

You both sound like you’re trying to wind the other up. You buy deliberately ignoring her weight loss, her by repeatedly commenting on yours. Both childish.

Yes she is being nasty. Just disguising it as a passing comment and if you call her out on it she’ll put it back on you as over reacting. She obviously has a competitive issues and is constantly comparing herself to you. She’s desperate to “better” than you basically.

I’m in no way deliberately trying to wind her up by not commenting on her weight loss. I don’t feel comfortable talking about anyone’s weight so why should I comment?

Oh and just to add my dsis is a notorious yo yo dieter. She loses the same two stone or so multiple times then gains it back. I have no judgment about this it’s just a fact but at the same time I don’t feel the need to comment.

Home!
No way I would spend my time with her.

Ask her why she keeps talking about the single most boring subject in the universe.

1. shes Jealous
2. If you know she is trying to lose weight, bloody compliment her! For some of us losing weight is a massive struggle (maybe you too?) and it is a huge boost when someone asks you if you’ve lost weight.

If you know she is trying to lose weight, bloody compliment her!

Nah, if someone makes constant comments about my weight, including ones meant as an insult ("oh you've got no arse") then I'm not complimenting them on their weight loss.

Partly because I wouldn't feel like complimenting them. And partly because I'd be telling them I didn't appreciate comments about my body, and if I'd commented on theirs I'd be undermining my argument.

I know full well that losing weight is hard but I don’t see why that means I need to comment on it. Comments like you’re looking well or good should be enough and I’m happy to comment like this but that’s as far as it goes. What exactly is wrong with that?

YANBU

There’s one thing to compliment someone and then there’s making snide comments to make the person feel self conscious.

Anytime she asks, I would ask her right back.
Be nice about it but if she’s jealous of you then it may stop her commenting if she knows she’ll get the same question back.

There’s nothing telling about it at all. She clearly wants compliments about something I don’t feel comfortable talking about, weight. This is mostly due to the fact I have always struggled with my own weight and I feel like it’s a personal thing but also, I just don’t want to discuss it in general. There are far more exciting and important things to talk about.

Go for the classic 'do you mean to be so rude?'

It’s not unfathomable, far from it. What’s more, why would i compliment a person on their weight loss when they’ve made borderline negative and inappropriate comments about my body?