To be totally and utterly fed up?

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I have flu - proper flu, not a bad cold. I feel like absolute and utter crap.

My sister is hosting me and our parents for Christmas day and has been utterly awful towards me for the last couple of days because I'm really struggling. Highlights include "I'm wallowing in self pity" and "I'm fucking ruining Christmas by being so soft"

She has a cold and keeps snapping at me that she's not well either. I've cried more over the past few days than I have in ages with her. Not even sure why I'm posting, just need to vent I guess.

Surely you’re either well enough to put on a face and join in with Christmas or you’re too unwell and need to stay home and in bed? I think you’re being unreasonable if you’re unwell but aren’t making an effort to look after yourself and are instead struggling through but being soft and miserable with it, surely it would be better for everyone to stay home.

If you're that unwell then you should be in bed.

Personally, it really annoys me when people are unwell and insist on soldiering on and moping about - just go and sleep and get yourself better. Nobody wins any prizes for being a martyr.

I had the fly and Covid last year and ended up in hospital

i haven’t never ever felt that bad before or after. I feel for you op ♥️

I wouldn't bother!

I had this flu a few months ago - I'd had a fall and been admitted into hospital with a broken arm that needed an op to pin and plate it. The op was postponed for nearly three weeks as I caught the flu in hospital and became too ill to undergo anesthesia. I barely remember those weeks.

Put your big girl pants on and make an executive decision and go/stay home.

Just stay home, I'd be angry if someone deliberately tried to infect me with influenza. Don't give it to your parents!

Just to be clear - I wanted to stay home. Sister was demanding go to hers.

She can demand all she wants, just stay home.

Assuming you’re an adult, you can say no?

Since when do you have to do what your sister says?

I hope this finds you tucked up under your duvet or on the sofa in a nice warm blanket. It's not unreasonable to be miserable and weepy when you're seething with pathogens and you feel awful. It would be very unreasonable to give whatever you've got to your DPs. Your Dsis wouldn't be pleased if she caught it either, so staying away would do everyone a huge favour and maybe allow you to see them at another time during the holidays.

I've had proper flu on Christmas Day. Couldn't eat, couldn't drink, could barely move, never felt so ill. I ended up with a bad chest infection for weeks afterwards, rest and do not get dragged into any madness.

But you're going to pass it on to your parents by choosing not to stay home?
I don't understand.

What's the worst that can happen if you say no? If you do as she says, she could catch what you've got and it sounds as if she's not very well anyway. Does she want to be as poorly as you?

How is she going to enforce her demand? The police don't come out for things like that. Seriously, stay at home and get better.

Go home. Not worth it.

I’d be very pissed off if you came round with flu. The sister on my mum’s ward told me she should isolate for 5 days (planning to go to family today for the big meal, 20 people, including elderly vulnerable and very young). I told the family it was a terrible idea but point now moot as the doctor wouldn’t discharge her.

I think, very unfortunately, I gave my boss flu or whooping cough (according to her dr) last week. Didn’t realise I was quite so unwell.

But she's not your boss. Why didn't you decline and stay in bed like an ill person can and should. If you go along with her, you're perpetuating the whole problem.

I mean this nicely, but you should be at home resting if you have flu.
You shouldn't be visiting others to spread it to them, I wouldn't have a visitor with flu in the house. I caught it in my early 20s, usually fit and healthy, and was still absolutely floored, no way would I be risking anyone else catching it, especially parents if older. I don't think I could have gone visiting with it anyway, didn't have the will or energy.

Why do you have to do what she says?

There’s no way you should be going round there with flu. You need to stay at home & rest. I’d be really annoyed if I had a visitor with obvious flu as I wouldn’t want to catch it.

She can demand all she wants. You do what is best for you.

Screw her. Stay at home.

I had the flu end of November. I have never been so ill for so long. For two days, I was in the bed, couldn't even watch a telly.

I couldn't take care of my toddler, I was dead. It took two weeks to feel normal again.