My Ex has given me a framed photo of us both for Xmas... both

[Olive567]

I split with my DP about 6 weeks ago but we're still living together while house sells. Adult DC home for Xmas so we're trying to maintain some normality for today. Ex DP gives me a framed photo of us both in happier times as an Xmas present. I snorted, laughed, had a WTF moment and said how passive aggressive - and now I'm in the wrong apparently...

When I left my ex he gave me a book about a woman who’d left her husband for a more exciting lifestyle and finally realised the error of her ways and went back to the husband.

It was so far removed from our situation it was absurd.

Men are very strange.

Where are you going to hang it?

Neither of you are coming off particularly well here.....

Oh gosh I'd laugh too!
Merry Christmas @Olive567
Things will only get better 🎅🏽

It’s not passive aggressive…

I disagree. What a PA thing to do.

I'd say it us, suppose it depends if it's a nice amicable divorce where they are both on good terms or one sided

I don't know tbh, depends on how nasty the spilt was

It depends if you laughed in front of your DC or not.

I would have told him in private that it’s probably not the best gift but you are grateful for the thought.

In front of other people I would have played nice though.

Even if the breakup was amicable, I don't see how you can be in the wrong here. Yes, you were happy together for some time, but now you aren't and it's time to move on. Gifting the printed and framed memories of something that shall stay behind is wild.

Hang it in the bin

Reminds me of my friends ex MIL giving her a wedding anniversary card four months after her and her then stbxh had separated;she'd filed for divorce a month prior too.

It was petty and passive aggressive.

My ex told me he couldn't return my gifts so left them at my house. One of which was a lingerie set, like wtf. Some of it was to do with a film I like but also like a ghd hair brush. Some of these to me could have gone to his sister. They are now just sat in a pile in the corner of my living room

and now I'm in the wrong apparently...

Beware the man who gives you something he knows you won't like so that he can claim victimhood.

I hope your house will sell soon @Olive567

I think it’s a desperate attempt to make you change your mind

Sad, sad, sad

Hang it next to the toilet

I bought my ex a set of steak knives. He bought me socks.

You couldn't make it up. Try and find the funny side if possible.

Not sure why you say that. There's a lot of sadness about our relationship, I want to move on now and not hang a reminder on my wall and dwell on it.

It's down the back of the sofa atm... @TheLightSideOfTheMoon

I hope so @RobinEllacotStrike

Thank you @InALonelyCattleShed

I don't think so @catphone , has been a long time coming and have met minimal resistance. Just something a bit odd about it, almost like a cat marking territory IYSWIM.

Yes that's nasty @Duckingella :(

When my husband died, I was supposedly on civilised terms with his ex wife. (It's a long story. I wasn't the OW. She had an OM. As soon as Dh started to see me, she wanted him back. I don't know whether her OM ever knew that.)

I said that she was welcome at the funeral. This was during lockdown. By then, she was with her 4th partner. (The OM and then his replacement had died.) She phoned and told me that a family friend had sent her a card containing some words which had "comforted" her and perhaps they'd comfort me.

Now...this particular family friend had already sent me a sympathy card. I assumed that the "words of comfort" were a poem of some kind or the like. The ex said she would put it through my door.

A few days later, it came through my door in a new envelope with my name and address on it. The words of comfort?

A handwritten note from the family friend: "Remembering happy times in [name of village where DH and the ex had lived when they were newlyweds]".

So far as I'm aware, the ex doesn't have dementia.

You boasted on a forum about snorting and laughing in response to what to me seems like the kind of guesture a broken hearted person forced to live with their ex might make. If you're not sure if why this didn't make you come off well to me I'm not sure what to tell you.

@PrawnAgain no. He was passive aggressive doing that. However he feels, brokenhearted maybe. Bitter and annoyed? Probably. How else can you react to this really.

I thank my lucky stars I am not saddled with one. I don't know how so many women cope.