Bossy Patient on Ward of 6

[RosieLeo]

Hello All, I just fancied a tiny moan.
I've been in hospital for 11 days, and a couple of days ago, another lady arrived on the ward.
I went to introduce myself to her and her daughter, and they seemed quite nice. This daughter is going away for Christmas, and her other sons are abroad.
Her daughter asked me if I could sit with her daily, and I thought well yes occsionally, but I like my alone quiet time too.
Anyhow, the next day I was going down to the shop, and she shouted across the ward 'get me a paper will you.' No please or thankyou, a direct instruction. I obliged anyway.
Then her phone charger stopped working. I tried to help her but she wouldn't listen. She just asked another patients husband to sort it out for her. Again no please, or kindness. Just expectation.
She moans about pretty much everything, mainly about having a terrible night's sleep and the 'awful' hospital beds (they are state of the art and really comfy), the food, lack of staffing.
And now she is insisting that I sit by her bed and chat to her constantly because she is 'bored'.
Well I'm sorry, I am nobody's entertainment on demand.
I put the TV on low with subtitles. 2 minutes later, she asked if anyone was watching it.....I said yes, I am to which she huffed and said 'oh'
I find her rude and impatient, and I just tell her I've got backache now when she tries to get my attention for me to do what she wants / walk over to her.
AIBU?

Exactly this. They don't keep people in for that long unless you really her. To be there. You are a patient too. Not her entertainment you need to prioritise your own wellbeing.

Curtains have to b kept open on my ward. We need to be able to see the kids. We have them tied back. And make it clear they can only be closed for breast feeding and personal care.

Eek. I have to be in for a stent or 3 in a few days and was hoping it would be quiet.

@RosieLeo
Your options are
Speak to whoever is in charge of your care/ward
Tell the woman, you are not there to entertain/placate/chat to her
No need to be rude just factual & clear.

What kind of hospital is this where there is one shared tv, all the patients are chatting, popping off to the shop and seem to be perfectly healthy 😄 can't get my head round this at all. Can't you all just go home.

I was wondering this! I thought mental health ward maybe but the beds doesn't fit, cardiac doesn't fit and neither does paeds and then that's the limit of my experiences

Orthopedic?

Not the shared TV but I had the rest on a short stay medical. Despite popular MN belief you can be really ill and need to be in hospital and still walk about to go to the shop and have a chat with the people in your bay.

In fact I’d imagine it’s encouraged in order to speed up recovery.

Last time I was in, the ward I was in was fairly chipper, patients coming and going (vaping , vending machines, shop etc)
I think you hire tv to your bed & also headphones unless kids ward ( not definite about that)
One woman shared her magazines , offered to get other ppl things when she went off the ward.
I talked to someone's mum on the phone as they were still spacey from surgery!
Another time one woman offered to order in food for anyone who wanted it when she put an order in ( asked to be paid on PayPal )
So some wards are chatty and nice.

Tell her no that you have to rest. Put headphones on (no need to have sound with them). Ignore her.

You are in hospital because you're ill OP. You aren't there to win popularity contests and keep the ward Queen Bee amused.

Surgical wards can be a lot like that. I've been on a few where we were encouraged to be up and moving around the day after fairly major surgery. I'd wait for visiting hours and go down to the cafe with my DH, in search of drinkable tea and coffee (the brew on the ward was enough to finish you off) but also to see how mobile I was and make sure I was coping with stairs. I needed to be in hospital, but I wasn't awaiting the Grim Reaper.

Quiet?
Hospitals are at their busiest right now
Its madness

Havent seen a ward with a shared tv for awhile
But been in myself a number of times where the people were all talking to each other
I dont think iv personally left the ward but iv seen others leave, to go to the shop or get some fresh air etc
You can still need to be in hospital but your ok to pop out for 5 minutes

You don't have to worry about offending her . Never going to see her again when you leave. Tell her to Fuck Off.

I had to have my curtains closed so Nosey Nora would leave me alone and I could rest. She was opposite me. The curtains along the side were open enough that nurses could see if they came into our room or looked into our door, but Nosey couldn’t see my face from her bed.

I don't know your age op but I spend a lot of time in hospital and because I'm young the older ladies seem to think im their carer. I say to them you need to press your buzzer if you need something to which they usually reply I don't want to bother the nurse so can you just ... so now I press my buzzer and when the nurse/hca comes i say "betty" wants you then they get the hint. I use to always help out but honestly the more you help the more they demand they don't seem to understand your ill to

I've been waiting a long time and got offered this week so I thought maybe some people stayed away for social reasons and so left a bit of a gap.