DP choosing to sleep in with DS after argument

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I've done, what feels like, absolutely everything this year sorting presents etc. My OH was up saying goodnight to DS (7) and fell asleep I went up woke him twice and eventually got annoyed.

I put all presents down stairs except bike as I couldn't. Asked him to do it and he banged his head so screamed... I went up to tell him yesterday be quiet but in a horrible exasperated way as he'd wake DS. Anyway he says I spoke to him like shit, probably did tbh as I'm at the end of my tether. He didn't speak to me great either, not ideal I know.

He's now sleeping in with DS, begged him not to so I could experience him coming in. He's said no and I've given him the ultimatum that we would be done if he took this away from me. I know tensions are high and it's this time of year etc but AIBU to think this is the final straw?

Sounds like there's a lot of growing up to be done, and not from the child(ren).

Experience him coming in?

To our room in the morning, excited to tell us his stocking is full and wanting to go down stairs. Now as dp is in his room with him, they'll share it together first. I just think it could be his last year of believing in the magic.

Oh honestly take a breath. It’s a stressful time of year. You’re both pissed off and stressed over nothing. Just go into your son’s room to do his stocking. You’re BOTH making issues where there don’t have to be any.

How do we know it's the final straw?

Really glad l don't have a 'DH' after reading some of the threads for the past couple of days.

Him screaming gave me a giggle though

I have absolutely no idea what's going on from your OP but it all sounds totally bonkers. I can't imagine this level of childishness from two adults.

Sleep under the tree

You're being ridiculous

Oh dear, another one that thinks it ok to go and disturb someones sleep just to take a present down.

What is wrong with people lately.

OP you do sound childish. He was obviously tired and asleep. Then has ended up banging his head. It's not funny.

You're not helping yourself by giving ultimatums and its clear your DH has had enough too.

😁😁😁

Sounds like the 'DHs' are fed up with the OPS too!

Well, if you’ve given him an ultimatum that the two of you will “be done” if he doesn’t follow your orders, this could be the last Christmas your child spends with his father so I’d let them stay in the same room.

I wonder what it is about Christmas that brings out neurosis

So you or your children didn't have your Christmas presents hidden and taken down during usual sleep time?

Having to disturb your sleep, in some way, on Christmas Eve when you have primary aged children is the norm. You just get on with it.

I can understand your frustration OP. He needed one this one night to suck it up Ana help make this special for DS .

But … I imaging DH would not sleep a wink if he had to share a bed with someone he was furious with !

You sound jealous of your husband

Why do you think that would be the case, I’m fairly certain done doesn’t mean OP will kill their child.

Sorry couldn't help a giggle at the scream bit!! Christmas is a lovely time but can be stressful. Make dp a coffee in the morning.,reconnect and get up early to see da open his parcels. The expectation is immense. One year my DS got a scalextric set.Dp spent ages setting it up.DS was unwell and I had run low on Calpol .emergency trip to chemist Christmas morning! BY Lunchtime DS had fallen asleep in his dinner!

YABU.

He was asleep. You could have left the bike upstairs. It's no big deal.

You sound very immature.

Are you going to follow through with your ultimatum or apologise for being a dick?

As I reread due to comments I wondered if he was angling to sleep in with ds anyway if he’d already fallen asleep in their twice, and then used what happened to finally decide

this does sound like Xmas antics you may laugh about down the line