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Dinero86 · 24/12/2024 23:01

Ok so bear with me, I’m sure by my last 2 threads you can see my life has been pretty shite these last few months! However I did finally leave the relationship. My ex is currently on the run police haven’t yet caught up with him. Something did worry me though in his rant when he rang me after he found out police where looking for him and it’s playing on my mind, he said he will only go to jail for a few months then just move his ex up here with the kids to a house as close to me as possible “surveillance team” It’s beyond fucked up and weird, it’s like anythin he can to try and terrorise or hurt me. Knowing the drama that came from her in our relationship this is something he knows would kill me.

can I ask opinions as I don’t really have a clue about this stuff and was really hoping now I have left him he would go back to London, if she does move up here there’s no chance of that and I’m stuck with him close to me! Iv been holding onto the fact he would just go back up to be with his kids now iv ended it.

if she is from London and got a move fleeing domestic violence from him to Kent, has a open case for cohersive behaviour, threats to kill and assault against him and social services are heavily involved and have clear as day told her he can’t live with the kids .. how the hell is she getting a move up here?? Iv only just recently found all this info out and my head is spinning from it.

would housing allow a move from Kent to Liverpool like that? She has no connection to the area at all apart from him and even then given those circumstances how could she use him as her local connection? He’s only been here since July? If she actually comes up here with his kids just so he can stay in my area and terrorise me she’s actually just as fucked up as he is honestly. I cannot wait for Christmas and new year to be over and put this behind me, I’m lay in bed now in tears. I know leaving him was the right thing to do but just thinking of what could have been my heart is completely broken.

am I unreasonable to think there’s no way she would be able to get a move up here surely?!

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Hufflemuff · 24/12/2024 23:19

Not gonna happen. By the time the move goes through or is approved surely this would have died down. Also, as you say there's no connection to area so that puts that to bed.

Their best chance would be to find a homeswap, but honestly, unless they downgrade from a 3 bed to a 2 or something like that, its not happening either.

Dinero86 · 24/12/2024 23:43

Hufflemuff · 24/12/2024 23:19

Not gonna happen. By the time the move goes through or is approved surely this would have died down. Also, as you say there's no connection to area so that puts that to bed.

Their best chance would be to find a homeswap, but honestly, unless they downgrade from a 3 bed to a 2 or something like that, its not happening either.

She’s got 8 kids so will need a huge house! I think 5 of those currently live with her.

honestly I just wish he would piss off back to London, the whole reason he moved here was to win me back after he cheated on me with her back in London. Now the relationship is over it makes sense for him to go back he has absolutely nothing here and only wants to stay to “surveillance” me in his words.

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Viviennemary · 24/12/2024 23:47

Report him to the police for stalking and harassment. He sounds totally unhinged. Try not to give him the chance to communicate with you. If he makes any threats in writing keep as evidence.

Dinero86 · 25/12/2024 00:03

Viviennemary · 24/12/2024 23:47

Report him to the police for stalking and harassment. He sounds totally unhinged. Try not to give him the chance to communicate with you. If he makes any threats in writing keep as evidence.

He is on the run at the moment! He was reported Friday x

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Quietlywatching · 25/12/2024 01:06

Is it possible that he is just saying this to get into your head because he knows he's loosing control?

It's a horrid situation to be in.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 25/12/2024 01:09

If he is on the run, where is the child he was keeping off school for x weeks ?

Dinero86 · 25/12/2024 08:24

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 25/12/2024 01:09

If he is on the run, where is the child he was keeping off school for x weeks ?

I presume with him? I have no idea. His mum did come down at the weekend to visit so maybe he has gone back up there or she might of just taken the kids back up to their mum (doubt it since she never seems to have them) I actually don’t have a clue where he is or what’s happening it’s all too quiet since Friday i know he’s going to pop up sooner or later in the worst way x

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MatildaTheCat · 25/12/2024 08:30

This man was to idle to cook a meal for his child. He’s not going to be arranging a move for his whole shambles of a family.

Block him and get on with your day.

Dinero86 · 26/12/2024 08:54

MatildaTheCat · 25/12/2024 08:30

This man was to idle to cook a meal for his child. He’s not going to be arranging a move for his whole shambles of a family.

Block him and get on with your day.

block him? He is on the run. Are you assuming I’m still in communication?! Telling someone who’s got a DV case to get on with their day lol. Wow

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