My brother rarely bothers with me, and me him after years of trying and getting little back except when he’s been unwell a couple of times. We both have 2 girls, each a year apart, the oldest being 21. We’ve always just sent money back and forth, but my girls liked it as we aren’t a big family and it was one of the few gifts that weren’t from me/DH.
13 Deci duly sent off the money for his girls. No acknowledgment or anything, from any of them. Last night I was speaking to my mum and mentioned it (he has form for not thanking or his kids either) and said something like ‘I give up’. She said oh yes he mentioned you had sent the money and he wishes you hadn’t.
Why not raise it with me? I was pissed off so texted him and said sorry I didn’t realise you wanted to stop this, I wish we had discussed it before and saved any misunderstandings. He responded he had been too busy to text and he thought as our girls are grown up and have jobs and buy themselves whatever they want it’s a waste of time. I said yes fair enough, but maybe let me know? Apart from the fact that my kids are the younger ones and are not in full time work!
it isn’t the money it’s just the rudeness of not communicating, presumably he was happy to accept the gifts for his kids but was just gonna let it slide though.
i don’t live near him or my parents, i’m treated like the black sheep for moving away from where they live to pursue a career. AIBU to feel pissed off about this?