Aunty by marriage

[Newmum738]

This probably isn't the right thread but here goes!

I'm an aunty by marriage but our older nieces and nephews don't see it that way and I don't think my DH does either.

DH has some strange views about family and it makes me feel excluded. Early. Our relationship, we saw the family at Christmas and I bought a small gift each for the children and he was very annoyed.

I feel like he is the barrier to good relationships for me with his family and I feel resentful about that.

I have difficult family situation so I'd like to feel secure in his but 10 years in and I think there is no chance of that.

AIBU to think that this is awkward?

I’m confused, is the issue that you’re trying to build a relationship of some sort and he doesn’t want either of you to do that or is it that he doesn’t want YOU to?

@OrangeSlices998 not really, the issue is more that I was feeling insecure and there is nothing like Christmas to make you wish you had a closer family!

It depends on the age they were when you got married I'd reckon. My uncle married his wife 10 years ago. I'm the youngest niece and I was 21 at the time. As much as she's a nice woman, I've never considered her my Aunty.
My Aunty regarding that uncle will always be his ex wife, as that's who was around when I was a child.