To be mad at my family's expectations to sort their gifts out

[Bitesize89]

So my family who lives in Canada mum dad and sister who is over 30 told me only on the 21 of December they wanted to contributed 150 to my DD Christmas present. I am grateful for the money and thought but really annoyed as they said they wanted to contributed to a bike. They had months to tell me an expect me to get this on time for Christmas. I live in the UK so I get that it's hard to get my DD gifts and that I might need to help but AIBU for being mad that they only told me 4 days away when my parents are retired and could have given me more time. Equally I feel it's not my job to make sure they have a gift, if they want to give a gift they should plan it, as I don't want to chase them for money months and advance.

I think the idea of transferring money to you, with a specific idea of what to spend it on (bike), and asking if you can sort it for them, is pretty reasonable given they live in Canada.

What is not reasonable is leaving it so close to Christmas so that you have so little time to research the present, find it, buy it, wrap it etc. Sounds at best disorganised and at worst an afterthought on their part

Have they actually transferred the money? If not, I would leave it until they had (and tell them that this is what you are doing) so that you have more time, and are less stressed, to make an informed bike choice.

We promised DD a bike one Christmas but took her to choose it afterwards. If they have sent you the money, could you give your DD an IOU and let her choose a bike in the next week or two?

Does DD actually want a bike ?

If she does and you have already purchased one, then "Thanks very much it is going on purchase of DDs bike".

If she hasn't got a bike and wants one."Thanks so much such a kind gift.Unfortunately it's too late to buy and get a bike delivered for Christmas now, but the money will go further in the sales."

If she doesn't want one "Thank you for your kind gift.DD is adamant she doesn't want a bike so we used it for scooter instead "

If you haven't got the money, do nothing.