To point out DHs hypocrisy....

[romanfriendsandcountrywomen]

A few days ago was DHs birthday. He and his brother were reminiscing about all the great nights out they had on Xmas Eve- get home, see parents, then off out to see all their old school friends, drunkenly home by 2.00 am. Fantastic times apparently.

Dd is just home from university as she stayed for her part time job. She's meeting all her old school friends tonight for a festive pub crawl. DH is fuming. Apparently it's disrespectful that she's just arrived and is off out, that she might wake us coming in drunk and that she might be hungover Xmas day.

I've just reminded him of the "best nights out" conversation from a few days ago. He's had the grace to admit to raging hypocrisy but still feels DD should somehow be better than he was and stay in watching Christmas films with her younger sibling (and her dad who missed her immensely which may in fact be the problem!)

It's not a big argument but I'm a bit annoyed with him. DD feels awkward and he's been unfair.

Yup, if he can’t recognise the total hypocrisy and apologise to everyone for being an arse, then that’s really shitty of him.

Ask him why he didn’t tell his mates that he wasn’t coming to the pub but would be staying in with his mum and dad watching Christmas films on Christmas Eve?

His parents were pretty relaxed. DH and I are much stricter! I think he was relying on me to be bad cop and say "no"- but she's 19 and lives away and I'm not going to do that.
I'd prefer to see her, not be woken up and have her hungover tomorrow but it is what it is.

I'd be very firm that he should apologise to DD for his double standards there and wish her a fantastic evening.

He clearly hasn't recognised that she has now grown up.

Its lovely he misses her and wants to spend time with her but she is now an adult and to a certain extent gets to choose her own path - the limitation being that she is staying with you.

So yes, Dad is being hypocritical and besides saying that, he also needs to think about his daughters wellbeing. I'm taking it that she does not go to a local Uni and as such she will have left her old friends behind when she went to Un?

Uni holidays allow you daughter to reconnect with her friends from home and if you want to keep your daughter in your area after Uni has finished, having a good family and friendship base is always a good pull.