To feel so guilty for having COVID?

[SnoringHound]

I, 27f, am still living at home as I’m saving up for my own house. I’m not the most social, so I only go to work, the shops and then back home. Had a sore throat and mild cough on Friday that normally signals I need my inhaler but that then developed into productive cough, chills, aches, congestion, etc. Took a test this morning and sure enough, positive for COVID

Our family had planned to meet up at my sister’s house for Christmas to be with her DC. They’re only little and I know how precious these years are, so we always make a huge fuss of Christmas for them. The DC were so excited for us to spend Christmas with them. Now, with this test, none of us can go. My parents are going to miss Christmas with their grandchildren. They’re testing negative but unfortunately, we have immunocompromised people in our family (including someone who is newly pregnant and struggled with conception) and we’d rather not risk them

I’m miserable as it is - I have never had a worse dose than what this is now - but I’m even more miserable thinking I’ve ruined my family’s Christmas.

We've had 2 Christmas' alone due to one of us catching covid and yes it sucks. What can you do though? What I will say is the kids enjoyed it regardless,it was more the grandparents who were sad.

It’s a real shame that you are ill and can’t continue with plans, but you are doing the responsible thing to keep away.
You have no reason to feel guilty. You would feel much worse if you hadn’t tested and potentially infected a vulnerable person. You also can’t influence your uninfected parents’ decision to stay away.
I hope you manage to have as good a Christmas Day as possible.

Be kind to yourself, you weren't out every night in crowded pubs or restaurants. You have been unlucky to contract covid doing those things which you had no choice but to do.

It seems awful now but it will be a distant memory soon.

Hope you feel better soon and that your immediate family stay well.

I'm so sorry, that's awful timing but there's no point feeling guilty for being ill. You didn't catch it on purpose.
Maybe a video call with the family? I know it's not the same but at least you can see each other.

It sucks, but you didn't do it recklessly or on purpose. I had covid last christmas and new year.

It’s a bummer but there’s always next year. It really can’t be helped.

Last year I took to my bed with Covid on the 23rd and didn’t get up again till the 27th. It knocked me sideways! All Christmas plans were cancelled including Christmas lunch for 12 people. I felt horrendously guilty letting everyone down but I was just too ill to get out of bed.

Maybe you can all get together and do something nice in the new year. We had a rearranged Christmas lunch in March! Hope you’re on the mend soon.

It’s absolutely insane that your parents are going to stay at home instead of spending Christmas with your sister and her family. I’m immunocompromised (cancer) and don’t expect everyone else’s world to stop turning over me.

No one is expecting them to but they’re not the type to risk other people

It's not that insane. My son is immunosuppressed and they'd not be welcome here if they were our parents - we'd rearrange and see them at New Year.

Na, you can't help getting covid, it's rife at the moment it's just most people aren't testing anymore. Don't feel bad, and I'm sure all your family, whilst disappointed are relieved you're not spreading germs around. Just concentrate on getting better. Could you all celebrate New Year together instead? Dh was in hospital over Christmas last year, so we postponed the day and had a lovely belated Christmas on New Year's Eve!