Hello everyone, I'm hoping for some advice for an issue some might say is irrelevant but I have always had anxiety and these things really get to me.
So back story, I have 2 sisters and a brother, we're all in our 40s we have wonderful parents and have always been close. Older sister has a boyfriend who is horrible and controlling, he has ruined endless family events and a holiday to France which my dad paid for - he basically hates me and targets me, a result from me defending my sister years ago when he was unbelievably vile to her (she almost left him and now he sees me as a threat) anyway, I recently had a Christmas party for family and I thought by inviting him it would be a sort of olive branch (I don't want to cause grief for my sister) so he arrived 2 hours late, when I opened the door to anxiously greet him he just walked straight past me and ignored me. He then goes on to say hello/hug the rest of the family. He only stayed for a little bit and refused to let my sister stay on (despite her asking him if she could stay) he doesn't want her spending time with us unless he's there! He has ruined family situations for me and the rest of my family just get fed up of my anxiety when I get upset about his actions. He is so passive aggressive to me all the time in a sneaky way, any advice?