Crush on manager

[Jigglypuff82]

I posted this in the sex forum, but maybe its more general?

Im 35F Bi and I think ive totally fallen for my older F40 Finance Director who is married with 3 kids.....I report into her and, Id never say or do anything, I wouldnt even flirt and I always keep it professional, but I cannot stop thinking about her in every way.....and I cant understand what is happening as shes not even that pretty or overly attractive, but I love hearing from her and she impresses me so much. I think its maybe power/being in awe?..has anyone else experienced this?

Power dynamic. Spending lots of time together. You only see the best version of her. Naturally have lots in common if you're in the same job.

I've had mild crushes on one or two managers before. They went away with time, once you see their failings and the fact they're just average middle aged people too. Nothing special.

I read that as ‘manger’ and was so confused!

A combination of all of the Christmas threads and a savage cold.

Nothing wrong with a crush and using that crush in a fantasy. Have fun.

Once you see some more negative things the crush will fade anyway.

It's quite normal to fancy someone because of traits that aren't physical or aesthetic. It's also normal to have a crush on someone because they've got a bit of power over you.

It's probably nothing, OP. You just have to suffer it out! Sorry.

Agree that it’s most likely the power dynamic and also if she has qualities that are enduring that it can be understandable. I used to fancy my manager at my first ever office job back then. I was 18 and he was early 30s

Rub one out before your next evaluation, so you go in sober

It is more likely to be limerance than a crush. Read up on it and work on strategies to control it and it will fade.

Ahahah would love her to dominate/pin me down. Its definately something power related. She actually dresses quite frumpy/old for her age.