To think "I grew up with X" is not accurate for only 6 years?

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CoffeePlantation · 22/12/2024 22:50

A really petty and pointless post really. My DH moved from his birth country when he was 6. He'll often refer to himself 'growing up' with something from his birth country when in reality he only 'lived with / experienced it' for 6 years.

Example: "I grew up with 'X' food" When in reality he enjoyed that food for a few years, then moved and I know for a fact his mother would have never made it because she was not native to his birth country either.

What age would constitute a person growing up with something? I would say up until the age of at least 12 or 13.

AIBU to think 6 is too young to have 'grown up' with something?

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Biffbaff · 22/12/2024 23:52

This is just a question of semantics. It's fair enough for him to feel connected to it. There isn't really a better way of saying it though is there? I enjoyed this until I was 6 may be accurate but it would be a weird way to express the sentiment.

ForFunAmberDeer · 22/12/2024 23:54

CoffeePlantation · 22/12/2024 23:51

I know I'm being very petty. I think at the moment everything about him and how he treats me is annoying me, so minor things like this do as well.

I think someone else earlier up the thread summed it up when they said "Unless you feel he is a bit of a spoofer or exaggerator generally which can be annoying"

This is very accurate and probably what's driving it. He'll often diminish my thoughts or feeling/ms, but then exaggerate on his while diminishing mine in front of our children.

In an earlier conversation I somewhat referenced in my example DH said he'd grown up on a very country specific spread used on toast. It was not available in this country. His mother could not have made it. And is very traditional with the cooking of her own home country.

It's kind of like me saying "I grew up on Wagamamas or marmite" if I'd have moved abroad at 6years old.

As I said. I know I'm being very petty and it probably has more to do with the fact that anything he does or says annoys me at the moment. I'd never think the same thing if friend born in the Ukraine who moved to the UK at that same age and said similar.

Yeah, you've just reached your limit with his own sense of self importance. And he ofcshould nit be trying to get one over you in front of the children. You sound tired and tired of him

WomanIsTaken · 23/12/2024 00:43

Your update puts it in a different light -he's showboating and minimising your experiences at the same time. Unkind and uncool. I'm sorry.

SleepPrettyDarling · 23/12/2024 00:47

CoffeePlantation · 22/12/2024 23:51

I know I'm being very petty. I think at the moment everything about him and how he treats me is annoying me, so minor things like this do as well.

I think someone else earlier up the thread summed it up when they said "Unless you feel he is a bit of a spoofer or exaggerator generally which can be annoying"

This is very accurate and probably what's driving it. He'll often diminish my thoughts or feeling/ms, but then exaggerate on his while diminishing mine in front of our children.

It's kind of like me saying "I grew up on Wagamamas or marmite" if I'd have moved abroad at 6years old.

Is he someone who likes to think his life experience is unique or special? I suspect the ‘I grew up with’ example is part of a pattern, where he likes to showcase that he is interesting and different …

Swalwey · 23/12/2024 01:19

He sounds obnoxious. But please can you put me out of my misery by saying what the ingredient is? It’s keeping me up. 😊

Maple butter? Kimchi? Fermented fish? Sambal? Cloud ear fungus? Vegemite? Halwa?

thank you

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