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To feel little bit down in this situation

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LilExhausted · 22/12/2024 17:15

I know I am being bit ridiculous. My best friend has changed jobs recently and she keeps telling me how she has got a 6 figure job and how I should try for a job switch as well.
Here's my situation, I am on mat leave for next 10 months and I work in Civil services, very close to my home, 15 mins walk, I am on a decent pay 70k and get to work flexibly over 4 days, giving me more time with kids. I have 2 young DC and I am mid 30s. I am in a relatively cheaper area, not in London.
We work in tech and I looked on LinkedIn and can see many good roles paying 6 figures in London and I feel so tempted to apply for those roles. It would mean an added commute, less time with DC, additional expenses of £100 pd train tickets, sabotaging my maternity leave and also, letting go of a day off each week I get, civil services pensions, flexibility and the existing repo I have got as well as I would also lose free 30 hours for my toddler and the future free 30 hours childcare for my newborn. I feel torn about it and if that pay rise would even be worth it if I get one of those jobs.
I feel slightly down due to this but I am prioritising spending quality time with my DC on mat leave. I definitely want to progress in my career and not let having a family mean taking a hit to my career. I always dreamt of progressing to a more senior role by 40.
I don't know if anyone has been in this situation and if they can share any wisdom.

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LilExhausted · 22/12/2024 18:39

HardenYourHeart · 22/12/2024 18:33

If you already have quite a few budget and planning meetings than you must be at least a bit senior already.

It's a fairly senior role and the temptation for me is that if I do a similar role with similar responsibilities in private sector then I will get to 6 figures minus the generous pension and work life balance.

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LilExhausted · 22/12/2024 18:43

Thanks everyone for the responses.

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mumda · 22/12/2024 18:48

Walk to work and 4 days. Sounds excellent to me.
Time is precious and can often not be bought.

LilExhausted · 22/12/2024 18:55

mumda · 22/12/2024 18:48

Walk to work and 4 days. Sounds excellent to me.
Time is precious and can often not be bought.

Edited

Absolutely agree, time can't be bought with any money in the world. Thanks for the perspective.

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HardenYourHeart · 22/12/2024 21:27

LilExhausted · 22/12/2024 18:39

It's a fairly senior role and the temptation for me is that if I do a similar role with similar responsibilities in private sector then I will get to 6 figures minus the generous pension and work life balance.

In the big picture it sounds like a step down from what you have.

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