To think turning 40 is liberating

[Fuckityfucks]

I turned 40 (still young) 6 months ago and it's like a switch has gone off.

I no longer give so much of a shit about pleasing people or what anyone thinks.

It's liberating!

I can't believe I've wasted so much energy in the past going to events I didn't want to attend, or making effort with crap friends, or doing a favour as it was the 'right' thing only for it never to be appreciated or favour returned.

I'm kind and considerate with loved friends and family, but the crap selfish people can do one.

I've been such a mug in the past.

Loving being 40!!

I honestly think the variability expressed here may have to do with oestrogen levels. I hit peri around age 40 - though didn't know it at the time - and since oestrogen dropped I couldn't give a fuck about 90% of the things that used to consume my energy. Liberating as hell.

Same! I am 41 and all my fucks have gone.

I got very publicly shouted at at work, by a man last week. It was the partner of a woman in my care and he had decided they wanted to go home (she was happy on the ward getting breastfeeding support) and I very politely and professionally told him to get back in his box and not be so disrespectful. He walked off muttering and 2 younger women in my team were both amazed I wasn't in floods of tears and in awe id had the balls to put him in his place. They asked if I was alright and I just smiled and said wait until you are my age 😂

I also dont care what people think of me now either. I have a fabulous son and partner who love me, a fabulous wider family, an incredibly rewarding job and everything I need. Anything and everyone else is just not important anymore.