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To want to send a message of support in this situation because - it’s hard - well I think so anyway !

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Jumell · 22/12/2024 13:28

Ok - to cut a long story short I was doing well with my diet, fitness and disciplined spending patterns up until around Friday, 29th November.

However, since then I’ve had an emotional issue - it’s around people pleasing and saying no - that’s caused me to feel unsettled, to overeat, spend much more, forget my diet plan and put weight on since that date.

So for the last 3 weeks I’ve struggled and been far less productive as well on a pragmatic level around the house - I’ve let it all go to pot basically and got lazy.

Anyway, yesterday I decided to rein myself in, discipline myself and get back in a strict diet/fitness regime. So basically I was proud of myself for not overindulging when I went to Sainsbury’s- - even though I was very tempted. Today I’ve been on quite a long walk but I’ve not gone to a lovely cafe en route for some delicious savouries which I was very tempted to do.

I’ve just been food shopping but reigned myself in this lunchtime appropriately and not overeaten. Yesterday and today I’ve been running.

I’ve started this thread as basically a shoutout to anyone in a similar situation - I think if someone’s got themselves into a cycle of binge eating it can be REALLY hard to stop. It’s SOOOOO tempting to give in and sack it off until the next day.

Also I admitted earlier that the cause of my dieting backslide and subsequent weight gain is issues around people pleasing and saying no - this is something judging by the MN threads that loads of us struggle with. ❤️

The reason I felt able to reign things in yesterday is I looked at the situation that was triggering my people pleasing tendencies and saw things in a different light. I still find it difficult but I’ve learnt how to deal with it.

So I’m proud of myself for reigning my eating in yesterday and going out running when it was cold - and if you’re facing/fighting similar things - you should be too.

OP posts:
whatwouldyoudoifisangoutofkey · 22/12/2024 13:31

Completely understand where you're coming from and want to say a big well done !!

Jumell · 22/12/2024 13:39

whatwouldyoudoifisangoutofkey · 22/12/2024 13:31

Completely understand where you're coming from and want to say a big well done !!

Thanks so much ❤️

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shewillbefinestopworrying · 22/12/2024 13:59

Good on ya Girl, I think this is a great idea for a thread.

Jumell · 22/12/2024 14:20

shewillbefinestopworrying · 22/12/2024 13:59

Good on ya Girl, I think this is a great idea for a thread.

Thank you !! Although I’ve got gritty determination - I really need /appreciate the support

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lazyarse123 · 22/12/2024 14:23

Well done. It's good to recognise when you're doing a great thing for yourself. 💐

Happyinarcon · 22/12/2024 14:29

I can relate to this, except my comfort strategies are to lie in bed and go online shopping. Well done for pulling yourself out of a downward spiral!

Jumell · 22/12/2024 14:37

Happyinarcon · 22/12/2024 14:29

I can relate to this, except my comfort strategies are to lie in bed and go online shopping. Well done for pulling yourself out of a downward spiral!

Thank you so much !!

I’ve never really find online shopping at all - but we all have our different vices !

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devilspawn · 22/12/2024 14:56

Jumell · 22/12/2024 14:37

Thank you so much !!

I’ve never really find online shopping at all - but we all have our different vices !

Process addictions/abuse are different to substance addictions/abuse, although some people are susceptible to both types it's not as common as they have you believe.

IdylicDay · 22/12/2024 15:05

That's a lovely thing to do. And congratulations!

Hairyesterdaygonetoday · 22/12/2024 15:07

Well done, OP! And the more you persevere, the better you’ll feel.

Jumell · 22/12/2024 15:08

Hairyesterdaygonetoday · 22/12/2024 15:07

Well done, OP! And the more you persevere, the better you’ll feel.

thank you so true

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